I'm angry and sad

Cindy L

Hello,
I'm new to this site and this is my first post. I lost my Mom almost 2 years ago. She had AD and Cancer. I keep thinking that I will feel less sad and angry any day now but I seem to find myself stuck between these two emotions.

There were some unresolved issues when my Mom passed and I never could have a conversation about any of it with her because of the AD. So she died never knowing that I was upset with her for so many reasons. I know it's not rational to be angry with someone who is gone but I am. I also miss her terribly. I wish I could talk to her again...the real her...the her before AD changed her into someone I didn't know.

I guess I just miss her today and this is why I'm posting. Thanks for listening.
Cindy

concerned_sister

I'm sorry you're going through this. With other situations I've had to deal with, I've found writing in a notebook as if I was writing to that person has helped. I hope you find something that will work for you.

mickeymouse

I am so sorry Cindy you are going through this. I agree with concerned sister, writing in a notebook as if you were writing to that person. I hope this helps you. Take care of yourself.

Hugs,

Sue (mickeymouse)

mommyandme (m&m)

Cindy I’m very sorry for your continued pain and grief. Does grief ever completely go away… I think not. I too lost my mom and during her actively dying stage I talked to her a lot…(‘they’ said she could hear me and I believe that after a couple other vigils I was there for). I asked for forgiveness for some things and told her I forgave her for some things.

I agree, there’s not a good way to talk to a PWD about our life’s struggles with them while they’re still “alert”. Only frustration, anger and sadness results from that. I hope you can write directly to her in a journal, let it all out telling her everything that still haunts you. Read it out loud and as often as you might need to try to send those feelings, thoughts, anger etc… down the road.

You deserve to move on and I imagine your mom would want you to also and not be tied up in life by her errors in parenting etc…

Brens Daughter

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/68615/im-angry-and-sad

Firstly, I would like to say how sorry I am for your loss secondly I would like to tell you I too lost my mom from ALZ and cancer she passed in January of this year the anger and sadness will get better it's a grieving process we must go through, and it's normal I will be keeping you in my prayers 🙏

feelsad

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/68615/im-angry-and-sad

Hello, I have exactly the same feelings and they become more not less as the time passes by. I feel nagry with her for verbally abusing me for the last year or so, for leaving me so early (she was 59), for making kinds feel so devastated and I cannot make my peace with G-d for taking her from me that early…

Do not know how to manage it! Please recommend me some support group of people who went through the same ordeal!