My mother just diagnosed. We saw it coming...

trishthompson

I just wanted to say hello and that I'm grateful to have a resource such as this!
My mother is in independent living, never forgets to go to lunch or play a game, but often repeats herself, short term memory is a challenge, loses keys, hides things, moves around her pictures and decor. She does not enjoy watching TV (never has, too many commercials) She has not been comfortable cooking for at least 3 years. She knows there is something going on with her brain. Just started 1st medication last night 5MG Donepezil. Here we go! When that time comes, she can do memory care facility for maybe one-two years. What happens when the money runs out? Any experience or advise you have is greatly appreciated.

M1

Welcome to the forum. Talk to a certified elder law attorney as soon as possible about how to qualify her for Medicaid. Important, because there's a five year lookback at how assets are handled. Look at nelf.org for lists of these attorneys by location. You also need to be sure you hold her powers of attorney.

Quilting brings calm

I’d suggest assisted living as a bridge between independent and MC. ALs normally don’t have stoves in the apartments and the staff keeps a closer eye on the residents than independent living staff. Choose one that has medication management so that she doesn’t have to remember to take her meds on her own.

Smilescountry

I just attended an estate planning workshop last night, and the lawyer had some very good ideas for managing the money. It is very tricky. Lots of laws and exceptions to laws for Medicaid, which is why an elder law attorney is so important. Also, going before your mother gets so far along that she cannot change her will is important, too, if that is possible.