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saltyagain2007

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I wouldn't know about the length of time being normal or not, but I think that crying and not wanting to be a burden is very normal, and being upset is part of trying to do the right thing and not being able to. Is there some way that you can have her "help" without upsetting her with the surgery? Is she seeing a doctor on a regular basis for her Alzheimer's? Can you call when there are changes like this? My dad gets upset when the routine changes, and he is someone who always wants to fix things for someone else. He likes to be helpful, so we find ways for him to do that. However, we cannot problem-solve or discuss anything negative around him, or it gets all mixed up in his mind and doesn't go away for a LONG time. There is no "All better or forgotten a few minutes later" for him! I suspect that with the recovery from the major surgery and another person in the house that the routine is definitely different!