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One journey ends and another begins

tetwoman
tetwoman Member Posts: 34
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Like so many lately, my best friend, partner, lover, father to our children died on Sunday, March 24. On his last day, I was at his bedside for 4 hours during which I held his hand, stroked his arm and shoulder and whispered how much I love him, and sang to him, cried an unbelievable amount of tears and told him to rest easy. I left for three hours and when I came back he was gone.I am so happy for him. He died before suffering most of the indignities of this disease. As difficult as the last year has been, I can’t imagine carrying on without him and I miss him so much.

Thanks to all of you for your support and my thoughts will be with you all

Susan

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  • Vitruvius
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    My sincere condolences. Peace and strength in the days to come.

  • trottingalong
    trottingalong Member Posts: 457
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    I’m so sorry.

  • Jgirl57
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    I am so sorry for you and your family and I wish you peace. (((Hugs)))

  • M1
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    Susan i wish you peace and healing. I am glad it's over for him.

  • JeriLynn66
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    Susan, you're in our prayers. Your DH is at rest now and I pray you peace and comfort in the knowledge you gave the very best care.

  • Mint
    Mint Member Posts: 2,820
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    Im so very sorry fir your loss of your DH.

  • Joe C.
    Joe C. Member Posts: 981
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    My sincere condolences for the loss of your husband. May you find some peace in the days ahead.

  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 4,586
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    @tetwoman
    I am sorry for the loss of your dear husband.
    HB

  • northernlady
    northernlady Member Posts: 92
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    I'm so sorry @tetwoman I hope peace finds you soon.

  • Joydean
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    my heart goes out to you. I understand your pain as my husband is now at peace. Prayers for peace, strength and healing for you and your family.

  • LJCHR
    LJCHR Member Posts: 203
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    I am so sorry for your loss - he is at peace now.

  • Jeannielou
    Jeannielou Member Posts: 28
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    I'm so sorry for your loss but as you stated, he didn't have to suffer some of the indignities of the disease. I pray the same for my DH. Just the early stages are sometimes more than he can deal with.

  • Beachfan
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    I am sorry for your loss. I am approaching one year since DH passed and I am comforted daily by the recollection I have of his peaceful transition. I wish you peace and healing going forward.

  • AnderK
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    edited March 30

    Susan, I am so sorry for the pain of the finality of your husband's passing. I love the title of your post: one journey ends, another begins. My heart is with you. Stay with us, as you sojourn.

    Kathy

  • White Crane
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    Dear Susan, I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband. My prayers are with you.

  • ThisLife
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    I'm so sorry for the loss of your DH. You were truly a warrior caregiver. Wishing you peace.

  • LJS45
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace. My heart goes out to you

  • RickM
    RickM Member Posts: 116
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    I’m so sorry for your loss. May you find Peace.

  • Phoenix1966
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    Wishing you peace and calm seas.

  • Rocky2
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    Susan,

    I'm sorry for your loss. I'm grateful that his transition was smooth. I wish you peace and comfort as you continue down your path with out your life partner by your side.

    Tom

  • ImMaggieMae
    ImMaggieMae Member Posts: 1,043
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    I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you peace.

  • midge333
    midge333 Member Posts: 351
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    I am sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself.

  • mrahope
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    I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. May you and your family find peace in the acts of goodness he performed in your lives.

  • mommyandme (m&m)
    mommyandme (m&m) Member Posts: 1,468
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    I’m very sorry for the pain of losing your dear husband. I hope the release for both of you can bring some comfort. Take good care of yourself.

  • Cheryl11
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    I am so sorry.

  • toolbeltexpert
    toolbeltexpert Member Posts: 1,583
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    Susan so sorry for your loss. I know your grief. I had left my wife at 4 pm and i got a call just before 10 saying she had, had a heart attack.

  • WIGO23
    WIGO23 Member Posts: 130
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    My experience with loss has been I was never prepared as I thought I would be. Even when the suffering of my LO made their imminent death seem for the best, losing them felt like being hit by a Mack truck.

    I hope you will be sustained by great memories of your time together and you build your new life in peace. Cyberhug coming your way from a fellow stranger on this journey none of us want or deserve to be on.

  • CindyBum
    CindyBum Member Posts: 296
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. What a blessing that your DH did not have suffer the final indignities of this awful disease.

  • GothicGremlin
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    I'm so sorry to hear of your husband's passing @tetwoman Like you though, I'm glad he didn't have to suffer through most of the indignities of this disease.

    Please get some rest and take care of yourself.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
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