Granddaughter dealing with Husbands Grandmother help

kaety

New to this site and not sure anyone can help or if I'm in the right place.
Grand daughter (GD)and husband bought his Grandmothers home 4 years ago as it was going to be foreclosed on.
They let her stay and live with them in the home, she was supposed to inherit he ex's home after he recently died, and move to that home (that didn't happen).
She was of sound mind at that time (but was a hoarder) and was doing well.
In the last few years she has declined mentally and although she has not been diagnosed, she has all the symptoms, talking to dead people seeing imaginary little girls and rats with bandannas, accuses people of stealing from her . She had locks put on her rooms and has hoarded it to the ceiling. Her room has been cleaned by GD's family multiple times. She has 3 daughters that don't get along and have basically done nothing in the last few years.
My GD and husband are young and have no idea what to do after repeatedly asking for help from the one daughter (the other 2 are not involved with their sister). The Grandmother refuses to go to the Dr. and the 1 daughter just lets it slide and says she cant deal with it.
As my GD's family we are concerned about what the next steps should be.
She is getting worse every day and is again driving (after Gd's husband disabled the car)
We don't know where to start or what to do.
I apologize for the length of this post any ideas would be helpful.
Thank you in advance..

M1

Welcome to the forum. She does need to see a doctor, it might work to tell her it's required by Medicare or she'll lose her insurance. Someone needs to hold her power of attorney or get guardianship if she can't sign. Some have to be hospitalized to get diagnosed, they can take her to the ER and say (truthfully) that they can't safely care for her at home.

they need to remove the car altogether, tell her it's been stolen if they have to (and can tell her they've reported it). Very, very dangerous.

kaety

Thank you for your thoughtful response.

I will pass this info on to my granddaughter and see if we can try your suggestions.

It is a very dangerous situation, not just because of the car, but she is getting very confrontational with my GD. My grand daughter is pregnant and very stressed out and worried.

H1235

There is an adult protective services. That might also be a way to go.

housefinch

I’m a pediatrician and agree this is an unsafe situation. They cannot risk the safety of their coming newborn living with this elderly woman who has delusions, sounds like she may be acutely psychotic, and could do something very dangerous to an infant because of these issues. She sounds like she needs to be evaluated by a geriatric psychiatrist and possibly admitted to a psychiatric facility that accepts people with dementia. I agree with taking her to the ER, ideally at a hospital affiliated with a medical school if they live near one, or just wherever they can get her to go. They need to say she is unsafe to be living at home. @Iris L. @harshedbuzz may have additional ideas