The man in the mirror
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Hello, MarDe. Welcome to the forum. I’m sorry to hear that such a young man is dealing with this terrible disease. As for the man in the mirror, I do know that this kind of delusion is common with different forms of dementia. Considering that your BF is only 44 and he has been experiencing this already is an indication that the disease is progressing rapidly. You will not be able to avoid more medical doctors. He will not remain stable for any long periods of time. I don’t mean to sound harsh, but the reality of early onset is that it’s fast. Decisions will need to be made quickly about the steps necessary for his well being and his safety. As a full time employee, this will mean outside support. The sooner you have a plan in place, the better. Be sure his legal paperwork is up to date. Not just his will, but power of attorneys. I don’t know how much his family is involved, but you will need a support system. A mirror idea, cover yours with a towel or scarf. Maybe that will keep him from being distracted. This is a great community of support. Share or ask questions any time.
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welcome and sorry for this tragic diagnosis at such a young age for your BF. Please take a few breaths and get the Geri psych referral going. It may take months before he is actually seen. I am sure you are feeling overwhelmed but I am glad you found “us”. Take this one step at a time ….
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Ask if his pcp is willing to prescribe an antipsychotic like Seroquel or Risperdal in the meantime. These drugs can dampen down his reactions to the delusions at least.
he's probably not safe to be alone any more, sadly. Hope you can find a solution quickly so that you can keep working.
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Hi @MarDel0917 This is a tough one. I'm glad you found us.
First things first - If you look at the top of the screen you'll see a section labeled 'Groups' - click on that and you'll find an FTD group that you can join. You'll find a subset of us who are dealing with what you're dealing with. I'll add though that the responses you've gotten here are right on point.
My sister was also diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's as well as FTD. She also had primary progressive aphasia. Is that what your BF has?
Early onset does indeed move quickly.
Wishing you the best.
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Hi and Welcome @MarDel0917.
My dad had this as well at times. You can buy removeable "privacy" window film that will prevent a reflection. You can find it at places like Home Depot. This phenomenon can happen with uncovered windows when it's dark, too, so it's best to draw curtains at dusk. Dad went through a phase where portraits and glass framed prints triggered this, too.
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MarDel, Welcome, but sorry you needed to seek out our community. When DW was going through this stage I purchased suction cup curtain rod holder and hung a curtain which I could open when I needed to use the mirror but kept closed otherwise. Then I put a framed print with a nature scene over her dresser mirror.
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My dad has EO as well and is experiencing hallucinations i.e. there's someone in the house. We have learned and been told that instead of saying no there isn't, to take their words as the truth because for them it is. My mom will say okay let's look for them and get them out and that seems to help - even though it of course feels strange! we have also learned that distractions are good as well. when he was going through an episode she put on the TV which helped, and another time she said ok let's go in the car which also helped.
I hope these are little learnings you can use and help you too. thinking of you! 💛
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DH = Dear Husband
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