DH's Nightmare is Over

ThisLife

My DH completed his journey very early Wednesday morning. I'm so grateful he no longer has to live in Alzheimer's world, not remembering anything for more than a few seconds and wondering what he has done wrong to be sent away. Hospice house was a blessing and helped take the sting out of hospital events. Upon reflection hospice gave me the first opportunity to be a wife over caregiving since this journey began. Now I begin the next journey. There is so much to do, and I'm just tired.

As an aside, my son and his family have been very involved and helpful in this part of the journey. It has been a comfort.

I want to thank all the caring people here who have made the journey bearable in dark times. You are all truly a treasure. I wish blessings and peace for you all wherever you are in this journey. Jackie

Pat6177

My condolences to you. Be gentle with yourself as you go through this transition.

LJCHR

I’m so sorry. Give yourself grace in your grieving/healing.

Dio

Jackie, my deep condolences to you and your family. I can't help but feel a great sense of relief that your DH is finally free from this wicked disease. Please know that he's in a good place now. You can start taking care of your life and make ThisLife worth living! Hugs…

Beachfan

Dear Jackie,

I am sorry for your loss; no loss is easy, but a peaceful transition for your DH is truly a gift for him and for you. I hope you can find peace and rest in the coming days and months. Let only the good memories sustain you. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

Jeanne C.

Peace and comfort to you and your family. I'm so glad you had hospice to help. You were such a strong fighter for your husband and I have appreciated your posts in my time here. Thinking of you.

fmb

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

Joydean

my condolences are with you. Take the time you will need to rest and recover. It’s been a month now since my husband passed and for the first 2 weeks I just stayed really busy, then it hit me and I did absolutely nothing for the last two weeks. Nothing but sit, couldn’t sleep very much but just sat. It was like I didn’t know what I was supposed to be doing or feeling, I was just numb. There are no rules that I know of on what we are to do. Now I cry a lot. Just do what your body tells you to. Peace and blessings to you and your family.

Vitruvius

Peace and strength in the days days ahead. My deepest condolences.

housefinch

I’m so sorry for your loss of your dear husband. You gave him a comfortable and peaceful death, and cared for him so well. Sending you comfort as you face the days ahead.

midge333

I am sorry for your loss. Your husband was blessed to have you as his caregiver and advocate. I am glad that hospice was kind to you and your husband.

ImMaggieMae

My deepest condolences to you and your family for your loss. May you find peace and comfort.

Daughter of a Marine

Jackie, how blessed your DH was to have your love and tender care -he is now at peace and I pray your healing can begin. Take tender loving care of you and know that your love and commitment to your DH created a peaceful environment and safe transition for him. God bless you.

Phoenix1966

Peace to you and your husband as your paths split in different directions for now.

Nowhere

I’m so very sorry for your loss. May his spirit be soaring free of disease. And may the memories you hold onto provide you peace of mind and comfort through your grief.

Jgirl57

So sorry for your loss . I am glad you have the comfort of your son. Peace and hugs to you and your family.

GothicGremlin

@ThisLife — I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad you have your son and his family to help you with this transition. Give yourself grace as you move into the next phase of your journey.

M1

Peace to you all as you navigate through. Tasks will wait and still be there when you're rested a bit.

RetiredTeacher

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/68938/dhs-nightmare-is-over

I am glad he is at peace and hope you can continue on and embrace the rest of life's journey. You must feel so free. I winder what that will feel like .…it seems like it's been so long.

ThisLife

Thank you all for your kind comments. I think I'm pretty typical in that I'm in a fog, exhausted (didn't expect that as he was in MC0, and unmotivated. I'm focused on work for the next two weeks. Then the semester will be over.

My DS and I both agreed we just needed to use the weekend to rest. We did all the notifications that were critical on Thursday.

The youngest Grandson is graduating high school next month, and this weekend is senior prom. They need to have time to enjoy all the last times. My DDIL is already a mess as they will be totally empty nesters by mid-summer. The youngest was accepted to start college in the summer term. The oldest is off to WI to play regional adult league baseball and from there goes out of state for the last two years of college to play baseball. These are significant times in their family's life. I dealt with the loss of DM and DFIL at the same type of time period in our life. I hope they get to enjoy these memorable days.

JoseyWales

(((ThisLIfe))) I'm so sorry. May you find peace in the days ahead. I'm so glad your DS has been there for you and your husband. There's a lot going on in your family's life. I hope it all brings joy to see your grandsons off to start their new lives.

Buggytoo

Sending you prayers for comfort and peace at the end of one journey and the start of a new one.

ButterflyWings

@ThisLife May your beloved DH Rest In Peace. May your future be filled with good memories, peace of mind, full healing from this traumatic disease, and the knowledge of what a blessing you were to your LO.

mommyandme (m&m)

Very sorry for your loss and wishing you peace and comfort as you travel onward into stage 8. It’s amazing how the lives of others we care about just keep moving on and is such a blessing when we can surround ourselves with their joy. Take your time… be patient with yourself.