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Ex-husband care

My ex husband is living with me and he is not diagnosed but I have no doubts. There is no one willing to take him on and not sure what my legal status is and what should be steps to take.

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  • M1
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    welcome to the forum. You need legal advice. I wouldn’t commit to anything until you talk to a certified elder law attorney.

  • Iris L.
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    You would be acting as a friend. He would need to designate someone (you) to be his POA for medical and for financial needs. You might need guardianship if he could not sign for POA. You would then attend doctor appointments and make decisions for him. You could admit him to residential care. You would admit him into hospice care and make his final arrangements. As M1 says, you need legal advice to accomplish what you want to do.

    If you decide not to become his caregiver, and there is no family member or other friend willing to take on this challenge, he would have a court-appointed public guardian to manage his affairs. There are other members here who are friends of the PWD who become the caregiver. There are and have been also a few members caring for ex-spouses. They post on the Spouse/ Partner board. You might repost on that board and you might get more responses.

    Iris

  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 4,394
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    I agree that you need legal advice.

    Do you want to do this? Does he have assets for his care?

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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