Thought it would be a good day🤦🏻‍♀️

JC5

Thought I gave DH an enjoyable day ? After stepping in his pee on the br floor this morning 🤦🏻‍♀️ then cleaning the BR making him breakfast going grocery shopping making lunch and taking him to our nieces HS lacrosse playoff game. Having trouble turning TV on when we got home Changed batteries. He proceeded to get in my face and tell me that I’m a Fu—— A—Hole! I lost it ran upstairs and cried!! Another dinner ruined! Hate this!

Jeanne C.

I'm sorry. No advice or words of wisdom. Just sending you some strength. This sucks.

JC5

Tks ! Everyday is hard but some days just get to you!

concerned_sister

I'm sorry. Life's not fair.

trottingalong

I’m sorry. It’s true that some days just suck. I’m lucky I haven’t had to deal with anger and hurtful comments to date. That would be extremely difficult. I’m glad you have this space to post because we all understand.

ThisLife

You did give him and you an enjoyable day until… Please give yourself a high five over what you managed to provide today. Unfortunately, you are the only one capable of doing this now. I found that DH didn't remember an activity beyond a few minutes. He had a good time; he just didn't remember it. I'm so sorry this is so difficult and painful.

M1

Sounds overwhelming. I would have cried too.

I wonder if it was too much for him? Maybe his days of being able to participate in family events like lacrosse games are over. It's a huge tradeoff, because that may mean that you don't go either (or you go alone, while you still can)--but it may be worth it if you don't get yelled at. That may be the underlying message here, that he needs less activity and more routine. Just throwing it out there. I hate it for you, you know you don't deserve that. If it escalates, i wouldn't hesitate to call his docs sooner rather than later.

midge333

I am sorry. Caregiving for PWD is so hard. We're all doing the best we can…

sandwichone123

My dh wanted to go, go, go all the time, at considerable expense of time and money. At some point, they benefit more from a predictable routine. Now he lives in memory care, where he has a routine. Every Sunday I take him out and we have a predictable routine of lunch and then an activity. Usually we'll walk somewhere (the zoo, an outdoor space, a store or mall), but sometimes it's just a coffee shop or something.

JC5

the only activity he had that day was watching an hour long lacrosse game. Guess that was too much?!

GiGi1963

I tried taking my DH to grandson's games which he was enthusiastic about. We just sat down and he'd want to leave. Finally realized he couldn't focus on anything. No tv, no sporting events and he would be very restless. Hope this was a one-off.