Dad was caught driving!

mpang123

My mom told me a neighbor saw my dad driving at intersection of the apartment complex going the wrong way! He got confused and stopped in the middle of it. I warned my mom not to leave the key fob easily accessible to dad but she thought that dad has enough sense to not drive. Ha! Anyway, thank goodness they have watchful neighbors and they will call the cops next time. My mom has hidden the fob since then but I hope dad won't be looking for it and somehow find it and sneak out again. That won't be good.

M1

Mpang i have to agree. Your mother is not competent to take care of him and this shows it. I understand your hesitancy to rock the boat, but i think you have to. Your mother does not have the judgement to continue things as they have been. I think you are going to have to intervene.

mpang123

Mom wants me to live with them. But I hesitate because I live in HUD housing and don't want to lose my place if I move. I would have to apply again for another HUD apartment and be on the waiting list which can be long, and not be as nice as the one I'm in. Idk if living with parents will affect my SLMB benefits. If I don't live with them, I guess I should visit them more often and supervise and offer assistance when needed. Intervening is going to be stressful. Lots to handle alone. I'm disabled myself but I'm hanging in there.

BassetHoundAnn

Don't give up your HUD housing, Mpang. If you like where you are living, please don't relinquish it. You need to take care of yourself and your future.

mpang123

BHA, thank you for understanding. I really want to live independently, which I've worked so hard to achieve considering my disability. It's been 13 years already. I think I just have to see them more often and go from there. I'm calling hospice today and call around to find elder lawyer. Much to do and consider. Talking to my case manager tomorrow and discuss my situation.

CaliforniaGirl-1

Don't give up your housing. It is not selfish to make sure you are taking care of yourself and your life. Pushing yourself and creating a situation where you put yourself and your future well-being at risk is not the solution, although it is hard to resist in the immediate term.

mpang123

I will try to stay where I live as long as possible. I will continue to see my parents as often as needed. I don't mind the commute....just 50min.