Absent wife

swissman82

Hi everyone! I'm having great great difficulty coping with my precious wife of 61 years being in a memory care facility suffering from dementia

Denise1847

I can only imagine how you must feel. I dread the thought that I will have to place my DH someday. The best of can offer you in that you know that she is getting appropriate care for her condition, that she is safe and that you have given everything you can. I don't know if you have children but maybe this might help. I remember when my son went away to college. I knew it was best for him and that he would be better off in a independent living situation, but boy did I cry when he left and mourn his absence from the house. It is so difficult when we are confronted with changes to our lives and second guess our decisions. The second guessing and absence can be painful, but you know in your mind it is for her best.

jfkoc

Change, a loss and a smack of reality….I found it terribly difficult too. My heart is with you…..

Judith

Jgirl57

swissman82,

I am so sorry for your heartache . There are several members here who are struggling as you are. I hope they can give you some of their coping tips. It is pain deeper than most can imagine . Thank you for sharing.

SDianeL

I know exactly how you feel. I had to place my husband in Memory Care 6 months ago due to my cancer diagnosis. What you are experiencing is grief. I try to remember he is being well cared for. Once I recover from surgery I plan on joining a support group at the facility. It helps to talk to someone who understands. This forum helps me.

GiGi1963

Swiss man, I too am lonely and heartbroken after placing my husband of 60 years in MC. As reality sets in, the days roll on and become routine. I have accepted that all our plans have changed and I try to make each visit with him a happy one. It is not how I thought our story would end. Stay strong.