Not sure how to answer.....

nancylynne23

My mom has LBD and she is constantly asking me if my dad is her husband. There are times I say yes he and she says well nobody told me. I know that you are suppose to meet them on their level, but everyday she asks me if the "man that takes care of her is her husband" . I am afraid if I say no that she will get scared and think a stranger is taking care of her. Please help and tell me how do I respond?

chammkoob

I have been struggling with the same thing with my mom (ALZ) - sometimes she is receptive to the fact that my dad is her husband and sometimes she gets mad saying he is not her husband or that he is someone else entirely. I go back and forth wondering if it is cruel or kind to tell her my dad is her husband.

ShaynaPitts

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/69677/not-sure-how-to-answer

If I had the answer I would definitely tell you. I know it can be difficult

ShaynaPitts

M1

I think you just keep it simple and say yes, over and over and over. You could add, "and he loves you so much!"—might help her to hear that, too. My partner forgets that we've been together 30 years, that I have kids whom she's known since they were 2 and 4, and that we ever lived together. She's forgotten our farm, everything. Heartbreaking, but there's nothing to be done about it.

yearofthedragon

The repetitive stuff is strange for sure. My dad recently died and my mom asks where he is and if he's eaten yet. She also thinks these rocks in my neighbors yard are him. sometimes I just change the subject and it usually works