undiagnosed

BethDD

My MIL exabits many symptoms of dementia. None of the adult children have medical POA. The FIL and MIL have medical POA on each other but that is all. Both are just under age 80 and FIL has physical ailments while MIL has dementia symptoms. I communicate with their primary. Due to HIPPA it is a one sided conversation. All our concerns are known. However, until the MIL or FIL go in and express concerns no testing will take place. My husband and I live 7 miles away from them so we deal with them almost daily. They are getting by but not in the healthiest of ways. We don't have any legal grounds to do anything until something bad happens. Any suggestions?

mabelgirl

What about contacting adult protective services? Either way it sounds like you are heading towards guardianship. What about their health insurance do they have a home visit feature? Is the FIL of clear head that maybe you can get him to persuade MIL to get to doctor? Does MIL acknowledge any struggles or does she think she is fine? My mom is diagnosed but she swears it is everyone else not her and she’s just fine (Anosognosia) common in dementia patients. I had to call APS because my brother wasn’t providing safety for my mom and it really wasn’t too bad. It also made her feel special.
I pray you figure a way to get them help.