Sensitive situation

orth

this topic I have not seen anywhere on this sight and am somewhat hesitant to bring it up. My DW has become very sexual To the point that it takes a big piece of the day. I was wondering if anyone else has had this situation and how to handle it.

I just don’t want it to become so bad that it occurs at inappropriate times.

Sorry for this post, but I have no one else to share this with

M1

This has in fact come up before, though more often with men than women. It can be very problematic for multiple reasons, not only for the partner but for the reasons you mentioned, being inappropriate for others including family, children, neighbors, and caregivers, including interference with placement. You should definitely tell her docs about it, medication may help tamp it down.

PeggyLouGA

I have heard that some dementia medications have this side effect. Talk to your doctor.

MN Chickadee

You don't need to be embarrassed to discuss it, hyper sexuality is actually somewhat common with dementia. Most people find the only thing that helps is medication. It may take some tinkering to find the right med and dose. Part of the model of care for the PWD needs to include making life tolerable for the caregiver, and this can get really over the top and hard to take for the caregiver. And yes, needs to be controlled so it doesn't happen in public or with other people, or if you ever need to move her to a facility. Please do consult her physician.

ghphotog

I haven't really experienced that with my DW and she is in late stage Alz.
We quit lovemaking years ago because it became too cumbersome and painful for her and then she could no longer consent or understand so that might have something to do with her lack of hyper-sexuality that can happen with this disease.

harshedbuzz

This is common for PWD of both sexes.

The lack of social filter can play into this. This can take a lot of forms. Sometimes it presents as what the partner deems as sudden excessive desire, sometimes it's masturbation in inappropriate setting or using inappropriate objects. Other times it could be a sudden interest in porn or talking about sex. Speak with her doctor; there are medications that can dial back the behavior.

HB