How to get her to visit a facility and move ?

livlea

We need to move her , we found a good facility ,but they want to meet her first and evaluate her !

She will not accept.

She live alone in AL facility, has her meds delivered morning and evening

She is morning-downing every day , very agitated ,confused them by afternoon totally normal.

She eats ,dresses and bathes on her own , does not go out ..afraid of getting lost , but walks alot in her appartment , she doesn’t want anybody around but calls 10 times a day

We feel it to soon for MC and to late for AL ..

This place we found , she would be free to roam ( outside doors locked) but would have to eat in dining room with everyone . She never did that where she is living now , she is a loner.

They have another section for later cases but we feel it is to soon ..

Any thoughts on how to get her there ?

Emily 123

Hi,

Yes—that's standard for her to be assessed. They'll be looking at her needs, and thinking about what her care plaan would look like. So now's the time to discuss the behaviors you see, though you may have to do it away from her. Their Nursing Director should be able to travel to come meet her. You could say the visitor is someone from her physician's office that's updating her records.

Places may let a resident eat in their room, but there might be an additional charge (or not).

If you're really on the fence about a move would she be able to use an aide's assistance for a few hours each morning?

SDianeL

Don't tell her the reason for the nurse's visit for eval. Tell her that her doctor wants to make sure she's OK or make up some other reason. Lie if you must. Although she's a loner she may still eat in the dining room. Tell the facility she likes to be alone and they can sit her at a table by herself. Memory Care just means the doors are kept locked so they don't wander. If they have 2 levels of Memory Care that's great. They have activities she might enjoy. Is she on medication for agitation? Once she's approved, just ask the facility what is the best way to transition her. They told me to just tell my DH we were taking him to lunch and leave him there. It was so hard to do but better for him. They got him settled in. They said wait a couple weeks before we visited.