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Bob in LW
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in Caring For a Spouse or Partner

I haven't posted here in quite a while, but things with my Significant other/life partner have progressed recently. At first, her only problem was short term memory loss which was easy for me to deal with. A few months ago, she started sleeping all day, often 16-18 hours a day. She also was getting no exercise and was eating much less than usual. She gets confused, especially when she gets up at night to use the bathroom. One of her doctors recently told me that these things are all normal as Alzheimer's progresses and are irreversible. At this stage, he said, we should let her do whatever makes her comfortable. Sometimes at night she walks out into the hallway because she is confused, and I have to have her come back to bed. To make sure that I wake up when she does this, I've installed sensors on the bedroom doors which ring a chime when one is opened. There are still some positive things going on as well. We recently went on a car trip where we drove 200 miles a day. Instead of sleeping, my SO was alert and enjoyed commenting on things she observed as we drove. She is 89 and I'm 90, and last week her Neurologist commented that she hopes to be as active as we are when she reaches our ages. We are planning to hire a part time caregiver so that if I should be hospitalized, for instance, we will have someone who knows what my SO's needs are.

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  • Jeanne C.
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    I'm sorry about the progress but am so pleased you've been doing well and still going on adventures.

  • M1
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    Good to hear from you. I feel for you being a caregiver at age 90!!!! Sounds like a good idea to get someone on board to help.

  • NannyG55
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. Peace be with you.

  • marier
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    My deepest condolences on the loss of your SO. My heart goes out to you as do my prayers and thoughts.

  • ronda b
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.

  • White Crane
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    I’m so sorry for your loss. May God grant peace.

  • Caro_Lynne
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    So sorry for your loss Bob. May your SO RIP xo

  • Jgirl57
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    Peace to you and your family (((Hugs))).

  • jfkoc
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    Please add my condolences. And please remember, as this new chapter begins for you, that we remain here for you 24/7.

  • fmb
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    @Bob in LW I am so sorry for the loss of your life's partner. It sounds like the end came mercifully quickly, and that you were able to enjoy life together up until recently. May you find strength and peace for the days to come.

  • M1
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    Thinking of you Bob. What a hard loss after so many years together.

  • ​fesk
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    Very sorry for your loss.

  • CatladyNW
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    edited October 2024

    I am very sorry for your loss. Wishing you comfort and peace in the days ahead.

  • SDianeL
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    so sorry for your loss. Treasure the beautiful memories. 🙏

  • cdgbdr
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.

  • CampCarol
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    My sincere condolences for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you enter Stage 8.

  • Carl46
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    Sorry for your loss, Bob.

  • brs
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    Bless your heart. I'm sorry.

  • Kat63
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    So sorry for your loss. Sending prayers and sympathy to you.

  • ImMaggieMae
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    My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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