Visiting Frequency

Daisie

My mom is still in the hospital, waiting to transfer to MC. I had been visiting her twice a day (the hospital is literally 3 blocks away) and then dropped back to once a day.

The charge nurse and the doctor say that it's helping keep her calm, the familiar face. Yet, when I'm there, my mom takes it as a signal that I am there to pick her up and take her home, so I'm not fully seeing the benefit. It seems to agitate her when I leave without her. Then she sundowns and will keep calling me wondering why she can't leave.

I visit more to appease myself than anything. I miss her, and I hate seeing her suffer. I worry she feels abandoned (I know she has MD, so I can't "project" how she's feeling with any accuracy). However, one of the reasons I dropped back to once a day is because it was exhausting me and tearing me apart emotionally. I'm wondering if I miss a day, if it will make a difference since she doesn't know the day/time/year or passage of time anyway? I hate saying this, but I could use one day just to recover before the next challenge of getting her into MC this week.

M1

Take your day Daisie. They can call you if something changes.

kblau

Yes, take a day. She’s safe. I took 2 days this weekend bc I’m moving to MC next week too and my husband took my daughter away and it has really helped. Take a Day.

Anonymousjpl123

Take the day. It will help so much. You need it.