When is the right time for a facility

JM27

Hello all,

As some of you know I recently moved my father in with me from living on his own in his own home in Colorado to California. It has just been over a month and I don’t know how long I can do this.

He still toilets, showers on his own and can get around without help. He needs some hygiene guidance, medication and eating reminders.

He wants to go home as I know this is normal.

But the day to day and repetitiveness of it is emotionally exhausting for me.

I don’t know if I wait till things get worse to put him in a facility or do I do my best for as long as I am able to do the things I’m doing.

I have a family of my own all grown and I also work a full time job from home as well.

But as most of you know a lot goes into caring for them even when they are still able to do things on there own.

I go back and forth with when is the right time and my pep talks of I can do this I raised a child I can do this.

Any suggestions, opinions, ideas?

When did you all know it was the right time?

harshedbuzz

The short answer is, if you're asking, it's time. If you're not quite ready, perhaps a day program would give him some structure to his days and you a break from the repetition.

Unlike your child, you dad isn't going to learn and become more independent.

HB

M1

Totally agree with HB. This doesn't get better. He may thrive in a facility, you don't know until you try. If you're asking, it's time.

sandwichone123

Whether or not you're ready to move him now, it's definitely time to look at facilities in your area and start making some contingency plans.

H1235

You should also be aware that there is sometimes a waiting list to get in to a facility. You may want to look into this. If a waiting list is common in your area then maybe you need to consider getting him on one. If a spot becomes available before you are ready you can always turn it down an wait for the next.

JM27

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/220073#Comment_220073

Thank you very much for the info. I am touring on soon they currently do not have a wait list.

JM27

Thank you all for responses.