Narcissists & Dementia/Alz

Wilted Daughter

My mom is using me as a scapegoat. She said she tells people things, they don’t listen but what I observe is different.
Talking to her is useless…she says she doesn’t want to talk to gossiping sister but when she calls it’s heyyy 😃 while 👀 at me.
She’s one of them in fact as the oldest the leader who says one thing and does another thing. After talking to her sister daily she starts to sound like her…it’s creepy. She says she doesn’t want to talk to her but does and seemingly encourages calls. Her words, actions stir up strife but she acts like she’s doing nothing wrong. She says it’s them or you or someone else…in large part it’s HER.

Most times I don’t want to be around her…just learning how to deal with behaviors (hers, theirs, mine). 😆

Looking for responses from those who have had similar experiences

M1

this is probably not what you want to hear, but have you thought about taking the phone away? On your other thread I wondered where your irritating relatives are getting their information. I’m sure there would be fallout from limiting their contact but it sounds like it’s something to consider.

terei

Block sister’s calls. They are aggravating you and your wife