Wife pissed off at me

charley0419

wife pissed off at me , need advice let it go or leave it alone. ??

JDancer

details?

Jeanne C.

Let it go. Most likely there is no rational reason outside of her mind. And she’ll most likely forget it soon enough. A few months ago my husband was annoyed with me for some reason. He still sat on the sofa with me but built a pillow wall between us. It really reinforced the fact that his mind works differently now and much more like a young child.

sonnyhad

My wife is extremely mad at me! Blames me because she can't drive. Dr won't sign off!

easy23

Let It go. I went to visit DH at MC this morning. He was annoyed at me for nothing. I only stayed 15 minutes.

fmb

Let it go. And remember that it is the disease talking and don't hold a grudge against her. It's likely she won't remember what it was about or that she was even angry by this evening.

charley0419

your all 100% correct. She forgot all about it. Could have used a little of this in first 5 yrs of marriage haha

Jgirl57

Charley , I have often thought about our early marriage “not so important conflicts” and almost laugh when I think about how different things would have been if I let things go back then :)

Carl46

Ben Franklin had it right. "keep your eyes wide open before marriage and half shut thereafter."

SDianeL

never argue with someone with dementia. They can’t reason because their “reasoner” is broken. Just say you’re sorry and won’t ever do it again. They are anxious and that’s the way they express themselves. I began seeing my husband as my patient instead of my spouse. That helped me. Read the book “The 36 Hour Day” which was recommended by a nurse.

charley0419

great book

eaglemom

Great advice by everyone - say and do nothing. They will forget about it or refocus on something else.

eagle

H1235

I’ve tried to get in the mind set that no matter what I do mom is going to be mad at me. I brace myself for it and expect it. There is not point in explaining how much time I spend doing things for her or how she should be grateful rather than mad. So if she is not mad it’s a happy surprise. Sometimes this is easier said than done.