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Wife pissed off at me

wife pissed off at me , need advice let it go or leave it alone. ??

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  • JDancer
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    details?

  • Jeanne C.
    Jeanne C. Member Posts: 820
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    Let it go. Most likely there is no rational reason outside of her mind. And she’ll most likely forget it soon enough. A few months ago my husband was annoyed with me for some reason. He still sat on the sofa with me but built a pillow wall between us. It really reinforced the fact that his mind works differently now and much more like a young child.

  • sonnyhad
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    My wife is extremely mad at me! Blames me because she can't drive. Dr won't sign off!

  • easy23
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    Let It go. I went to visit DH at MC this morning. He was annoyed at me for nothing. I only stayed 15 minutes.

  • fmb
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    Let it go. And remember that it is the disease talking and don't hold a grudge against her. It's likely she won't remember what it was about or that she was even angry by this evening.

  • charley0419
    charley0419 Member Posts: 362
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    your all 100% correct. She forgot all about it. Could have used a little of this in first 5 yrs of marriage haha

  • Jgirl57
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    Charley , I have often thought about our early marriage “not so important conflicts” and almost laugh when I think about how different things would have been if I let things go back then :)

  • SDianeL
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    never argue with someone with dementia. They can’t reason because their “reasoner” is broken. Just say you’re sorry and won’t ever do it again. They are anxious and that’s the way they express themselves. I began seeing my husband as my patient instead of my spouse. That helped me. Read the book “The 36 Hour Day” which was recommended by a nurse.

  • charley0419
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    great book

  • eaglemom
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    Great advice by everyone - say and do nothing. They will forget about it or refocus on something else.

    eagle

  • H1235
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    I’ve tried to get in the mind set that no matter what I do mom is going to be mad at me. I brace myself for it and expect it. There is not point in explaining how much time I spend doing things for her or how she should be grateful rather than mad. So if she is not mad it’s a happy surprise. Sometimes this is easier said than done.

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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