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lcrma30

I am a caregiver for my parent who lives with me. It's been a little over a year and it has been challenging. It's a little better now but early on I cried almost everyday. My father has had mood changes. Looking for ways to manage. I wish my family was more supportive. Everything is left up to me.

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Hi Icrma30,

I'm sorry you are going through this. There are many people here who will help and support you.

I'm in a similar situation as far as family not helping. It's been many, many years and they are not helpful at all. It's a shame, but I believe it's more common than you know. Have you tried speaking with your family? Are they close by so that, if you gave them specific things to do, they could help? The emotions are an ongoing process.

Do you have all the legal paperwork in place - power of attorney and health care proxy, etc?

What stage is your father in? Are the mood changes recent? I recommend having him seen by the doctor to rule out a medical cause. If there isn't one, you can speak with the doctor to see if there is any medicine that can help with his mood.

Are you able to get any breaks either by having a caregiver or having your father go to adult day care?

SDianeL

welcome. So sorry you are going through this. Read the book “The 36 Hour Day” which helped me after my husbands diagnosis. Tam Cummings also has videos to help. Just Google them. It’s not him it’s the disease. Talk to his doctor and get a referral to a Geriatric Psychiatrist who is best able to manage meds for agitation. We’re here to provide help & support. Hugs.