A good man with Alzheimers

Nowhere

I was called today by my husband’s memory care administrator to tell me that my husband was a hero. After dinner yesterday he witnessed a fellow resident inappropriately touch another who was in a wheel chair. He stood up and confronted the offender and loudly said, “Stop it. Don’t do that”! This gained the attention of an aide who took care of it from there. He is in his 17th year with Alzheimer’s and how fortunate that that part of his brain recognizes right from wrong, kindness, and respect. At a previous home, he sought help when his roommate was suffering a seizure. It gives me comfort that he can and will communicate when something is not right.
Some of you might recall that in his middle dementia years he thought another resident was me and she thought he was her husband. I know there was nothing but love and respect in that relationship as he is respectful to the core. A good man.

Karen711

So heartwarming in the midst of it all! Thanks for sharing💕

Dunno

No disrespect, Nowhere, but when I read your story, I couldn't help thinking how a 2-year-old seems to know you're not supposed to hit or hurt someone. It's almost like it could have been an instinctive response. I hope there's someone like your husband around if my wife ever needs help!

I was pulled into the wellness office at the MC the other day and was told my wife had gotten aggressive in defending one of her friends and insisted the aid do something to help her. Apparently, nothing happened at all, and my wife imagined the event. Then the director explained that it was part of the reason why they, the doctor, increased her Seroquel.

Nowhere

No offense, Dunno. He is child like and vulnerable. You might ask in your wife’s case if they reviewed the camera footage There is oft a trigger of some sort. Perhaps she did see something, but maybe not, too. The aides who wrote up the incident didn’t mention my husband’s alert. The administrator reviewed the video footage and clearly saw him as a first responder emotionally calling out the incident. And you’re correct, I see loving acts of kindness and care between the residents that frequently brings tears to my eyes. It truly is beautiful as they have lost so much and seemingly have so little to give.

Carl46

PWDs are still people, and fairness is a basic human instinct, which is why the Golden Rule appears in every major religion. Nowhere, your husband has retained that, and courage as well. He is still a good man. You chose well when you married.

Mint

Thank you for posting, heart warming

White Crane

Nowhere, that touched my heart. Your husband is indeed a good man. Thank you for sharing.

jsps139_

Very, very special. What a gentleman! I loved reading this post. Thanks!