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Heather/Lindy07

My mom was diagnosed just this year. I think she's in the early stages of Alzheimer's. But seems to be progressing unfortunately! My brother and I are the only children from my parents. My dad is the primary caretaker for my mom considering they live together. My brother lives next door and I live an hour away. My brother and I have our families. We are busy with our kids! We try our best to help out my parents. But it's tough considering our kids keep us busy! My dad,myself and my brother are having a hard time accepting the change in my mom! I know my dad and brother are having a hard time with this. But I seem to struggle because I have been and still a mama's girl! I am trying to see who she is now and that she's still here. But then I also look back at who she was before being diagnosed. My husband, myself and my kids are true believers in Jesus! My faith in him is where I lean on for prayer,hope and guidance during this difficult time! Sometimes I have my good days and sometimes I have the not so good days! But ultimately my god,my husband and my kids are great supporters!

psg712

It is tough to wrap our heads around the changes we see in our parents, realizing they no longer have the capacity to be a support to us in the way they did for so many years. And the losses mount as time goes on. So glad you have support in your faith and your family for the challenges now and future. Many of us here can relate to the sandwich generation problems that you alluded to. Keep on reading and posting...there's a lot we can learn from each other.

mabelgirl

Please don’t forget about the rest of the family and how they are affected from this disease. How healthy is your Dad and can he realistically care for mom for an indeterminate time? Have you discussed with your family if it gets too much for Dad what will you do? Caretaking takes a toll on the caregiver, regardless of age. God supplies us with the means to handle the struggles we face. While our faith eases the worry , it also helps us prepare. Prayers for peace.

SusanB-dil

Hi Heather/Lindy07 - welcome to 'here', but sorry for the reason.

I agree with what's been posted. Yes, 'this' mess is hard! It is hard to see our LO in such a situation.

Also - is paperwork in order? DPOA and HIPAA accesses are so important, for both your folks. And yes, do make sure dad gets out and about for relief. Maybe even look into an adult daycare for your mom for a day or two a week.