Blame Game

Katie2289

Is everything your fault? Always.

H1235

Sorry but for me the answer is yes. A person with dementia is loosing so much, but are unable to realize it’s not you taking it away it’s the dementia. They are angry and want someone to blame. My mom even blamed me for a stain on the carpet in her home. If I say the sky is blue she says it pink, I am never right and have on idea what I’m talking about. Correcting them will only make it worse. I’m not a person who likes to be wrong (haha). I find it demoralizing to always be wrong. I try to remind myself it’s the dementia, but it’s hard.

harshedbuzz

Yes. I am evil and have all the power now.

I left my children in a bar to run off with a bartender. I sold dad's house for $360K because I never liked it. I made the wine spill on dad's face when he tried to drink it lying down. And my favorite, I moved the streets and replaced all the buildings with new ones when he got lost once.

HB

Jo C.

HB: I think there is a script for a Sci-Fi movie in there somewhere . . .

J.

dlomba1823

HB and J- thank you for the replies to the message string. I am not alone and I hate to say that I find humor but only because I understand. I can do nothing right, never asked for this type of responsibility or role, but am doing my best in a really bad situation only to be the one to blame for everything,. Its hard. Maybe humor is a way to try to see it, it does help to have someone else hear some of the comments so I am not imagining it. My Mom has been in a MC for about 7 months and just now are other family members seeing the hallucinations, paranoia and angry outbursts that I dealt with and no one would believe me. I certainly do not want to say I told you so, but there is a part of me that wants to reply to their texts of 'Hey Mom is having hallucinations… or I can't believe what she just said…" with a no ____ Sherlock! (there isn't a poop emoji or I would have included it.