The last mile
I though I was ready for MIL to finish her journey but this is so hard. She’s dying of breast cancer which we chose not to treat. Hospice started morphine a few days ago. I never ever thought I would say this, but thank god for her dementia - she isn’t suffering and has no idea what’s happening to her. Although on some level I believe she’s getting ready to let go, she can go peacefully.
My husband and I left town Thursday, drove all day to visit family, got the call when we arrived Thursday evening that she was in a steep decline and on morphine. We’re due home Sunday night - I was going to turn around and drive home yesterday but the hospice nurse advised me not to change my plans. She said it would take a few days to adjust the morphine and that MIL is not “actively dying” Yet.
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strength and peace to you and your MIL.
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I am sorry. I hope she dies peacefully and painlessly.
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Trust hospice. Take this time to be with the family you are with. As I’m finding out, this part takes a while, and it’s exhausting for the person and the caregivers. You’ve been with your MIL every step of the way. - inside she knows you care
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Wishing for comfort and peace for her and you. Agree to trust hospice.
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Prayers for you, your MiL and your family for a safe journey home and comfort, strength and peace in the days ahead.
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(((Hugs))) for a peaceful transition.
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Prayers for you, your family and your dear Mother-in-Law. Peace be with you.
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Prayers for all of you. I'm glad that she's comfortable. Perhaps she chose a time when you both weren't nearby to begin this new transition.
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@forbarbara I'm so sorry. I hope when she lets go it's peaceful and pain-free. And I agree about hospice - trust them.
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so sorry. Hugs
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@forbarbara
I'm thinking of you and yours today.
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I remember watching my father die of cancer, and when the doctors told my mother it was time to let him go. I am so sorry.
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May her transition be peaceful. Wishing you all the best, most gentle outcome.
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Forbarbara - Sending you thoughts, prayers and the strength of lions. I am sorry. I am sure you have been a comfort to her and to those around you.
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