Milestones

Buggytoo

Today is my DH's and my 50th wedding anniversary. He's been in MC only a week. I visited him this morning and celebrated with a card and chocolate covered donuts. He still knows me most of the time and can say "I love you." I guess that is our celebration.

fmb

Congratulations on your 50th wedding anniversary! It is hard to realize that we will never be able to celebrate these milestones in the traditional ways. While we hang on to what we do still have - that he knows you and can say "I love you." - there is a sense of loss that this cruel disease has robbed us of full enjoyment of these very important events in our lives. This is all part of the ambiguous grief that comes with losing our beloved spouse bit-by-bit. I have no answers, but just want you to know that I hear you. ((Hugs))

Buggytoo

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Thank you for hearing me!

Carl46

Happy anniversary, Buggytoo. It was in the year of our 50th that DW came home from the doctor to tell me she had AD, that she might experience personality changes, and some other things that I don't remember. At least we still love each other, as you and your DH do. We're talking to each other via internet, while my wife is asleep and your husband is away, but that isn't what we wanted.

SDianeL

Congratulations on your 50th Anniversary. So sorry you have to celebrate at MC. Glad he knows you and can say he loves you. Cherish the beautiful memories. Hugs.

Biggles

Chocolate coated doughnuts are a wonderful way to celebrate anything. Well done on 50 years. It seems so unfair with this horrible disease taking our loved ones a little at a time, how lovely that he can still say “I love you”. Carry this with you and think of it often.

midge333

Congratulations! 50 years is a milestone that few couples achieve!

clarinetist

Congratulations on your anniversary. It’s bittersweet, but an achievement to be celebrated.

CampCarol

Happy Anniversary to you, and congratulations on 50 years. I’m so glad he still knows you enough to say he loves you, keep that memory close!

White Crane

Dear Buggytoo, Congratulations on your 50th Anniversary! I'm glad he enjoyed the donuts and can still tell you he loves you. Those are wins for sure on this journey. These milestones are bittersweet. We love them so much and want to be with them and yet they aren't the same person we married.

We celebrated our 57th wedding anniversary in June. I took him a card and a milkshake. Somehow the MC knew it was our anniversary and surprised us with a beautiful bouquet of flowers and a lovely cake. They surrounded us with love and took pictures to help us remember the day. I entered the MC that day feeling sad and left feeling loved and thankful. DH didn't really know why we were celebrating but he thoroughly enjoyed being the center of attention and the milkshake and chocolate cake. Congratulations again. Hugging you from afar.

Brenda

cdgbdr

Congratulations and I am glad the love is still there.