Dad now stating he needs a flight home

JM27

Hi all,

So my LO has just realized we are in November and staying he needs me to get him a flight back home.

He has been living with me for the last 4 months and he thinks he is visiting. I have been able to redirect/work around him asking when he will go home for the last 4 months. Now we are at he realizing it November and he needs to get back home now because there are all these things he needs to do before winter starts.

The dr states he is in a moderate to severe stage. But when things like this come up I feel that he is not as far along as the Dr is stating.

He’s well aware he still has a home to go to and responsibilities there.

This disease has a way of tricking/ confusing me and now I’m with the new/same challenge of how to dodge and make excuses of why it’s not time to go home yet.

Quilting brings calm

Dad - it’s a very busy time for the airlines. Due to Thanksgiving and Christmas. I couldn’t get a flight in a timely manner. I will try again soon.

Or I got you a flight but it’s not for a few weeks.

JM27

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/229460#Comment_229460

Thank you.

terei

Make Excuses, excuses, excuses. If he was not in moderate or severe level, he could get his own ticket arrange everything….he cannot. It is now up to you to continue to do what is best and not what he ‘wants’, which is irrelevant

jen ht

You've gotten great feedback.

I'll add this (because someone shared it with me and I re-read it alllll the time)

Here's what I know you already know. May it be a reassurance and comfort to you as you continue to make decisions for your Dad's safety. Brain change is rough for all involved.

Anosognosia is a condition in which a person with a disability is cognitively unaware of having it.

Anosognosia results from physiological damage to brain structures.

This dude explains its impact really well. 
 
2 and a half minutes 


Sometimes they are unable (due to brain change) to have the awareness of the depth of their needs. And yet, you continue to meet this depth of need for him.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wd-8cm2vBVc

hugs ♡♡♡

jht