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A little humor

Maybe the last quip from MIL. She is in the “active dying” stage, mostly unresponsive. After spending a few hours with her this morning, I woke her up to tell her I was going home, I’d see her tomorrow, and I loved her. Although her speech is now hard to untangle, I swear she said “it was nice seeing you”.

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  • SusanB-dil
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    She very well may have said that. Sweet memory

  • Quilting brings calm
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    edited November 29

    @forbarbara

    I’m glad you got that response from her. I was reviewing my last several discussions here / trying to get the sequence of events of the last few weeks straight in my head. I realized my mom and your MIL went into hospice the same day and they’ve both declined rapidly since - It’s mind-boggling. Mom is also unresponsive.

  • forbarbara
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    I didn’t realize that! My MIL hasn’t had food or drink for 3 days now and today she was totally unresponsive. Every time hospice tells me it could be 4 or 5 more days I have a mini meltdown. I know in my heart she doesn’t want this. I hope your mother’s path is quick and peaceful.

  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,542
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    @forbarbara Really similar paths. Mom hasn’t eaten anything for at least 4 days and last drank 2 days ago. I also got told several more days today. Her vital signs are still normal other than a heart rate of 123 ( which comes and goes). She started morphine yesterday because she is moaning, but she’s only gotten doses a couple times a day so far. They told me they could give me a better estimate once she got doses every two hours. It’s awful.

  • MaryMN
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    Humor always helps. I remember when my mom was in the "active dying" stage and I mentioned that everyone at church was praying for her. She responded, "Is THAT why I'm still here?!"

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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