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forbarbara
forbarbara Member Posts: 185
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MIL died early this morning. At the moment I’m feeling profoundly relieved and grateful that her journey is done. I know there’s a host of emotions waiting for me but just now I’m going to enjoy a little peace.
It’s early morning here and I’ll wait til family members are up to call them. But the funny thing is I wanted to make sure I told you first - truly my online family. I am so grateful to you.

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  • JeriLynn66
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    I'm sorry for your loss but grateful you have peace in the moment. My prayers are with you.

  • fmb
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    I am so sorry for your loss. Live in the peace of the moment. May you continue to know peace and strength in the coming days and beyond.

  • Quilting brings calm
    Quilting brings calm Member Posts: 2,526
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    I’m so sorry for your family’s loss. I totally understand all the feelings you mentioned. Please rest and get through the holidays as best you can.

  • Jeanne C.
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    Peace and comfort to your family.

  • Emily 123
    Emily 123 Member Posts: 795
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    I'm so sorry for your loss, but glad that she's at peace. Please take care of yourself, and let us know how you're doing when things settle down. Your MIL was so lucky to have you as her advocate.

  • midge333
    midge333 Member Posts: 332
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    I am sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

  • harshedbuzz
    harshedbuzz Member Posts: 4,521
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    @forbarbara

    I am sorry for the loss of your dear mother-in-law. Your affection and admiration of her was evident in all you wrote here— I'm sure she felt that.

    HB

  • SusanB-dil
    SusanB-dil Member Posts: 1,173
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    So sorry for the loss. I would say what you are feeling is normal. I remember grandfather felt like a weight was lifted off his shoulders. So yes, a weight lifted, but at the sane time, there is the loss.

    She was blessed to have you watching out for her.

  • easy23
    easy23 Member Posts: 215
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    So sorry for your loss. I wish you peace.

  • GothicGremlin
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    @forbarbara

    I'm so sorry for the loss of your MIL. I remember well that feeling of relief when my sister passed away.

    There are indeed a host of emotions swirling around waiting to be processed, but I'm so glad you're taking time for yourself right now.

  • Jgirl57
    Jgirl57 Member Posts: 494
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    Peace………..

  • housefinch
    housefinch Member Posts: 409
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    I’m so sorry for your loss. You took amazing care of her.

  • clarinetist
    clarinetist Member Posts: 165
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    My condolences to you-you’ve been a wonderful caregiver to her.

  • --Rebecca--
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    Peace to you, and your MIL. There are so many words of comfort in this thread. This experience is the world series of life lessons. We learn so much, feel so much. I'm so sorry.

  • Phoenix1966
    Phoenix1966 Member Posts: 209
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    I’m glad both you and your dear one have peace.

  • ButterflyWings
    ButterflyWings Member Posts: 1,755
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    Peace and strength to you at this expected, but unpredictable time. You have been providing her with such loving care and fulfilling her request for your support. What an awesome testament to your MIL and to you as trusted DIL. May your memories of better days shine through the grieving process, in time. What an amazing caregiver. That's the best one can hope for with the dementias and you did that for her. Bless you.

  • Iris L.
    Iris L. Member Posts: 4,437
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    Please accept my condolences in the loss of your dear mother-in-law.

    Iris

  • Russinator
    Russinator Member Posts: 16
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    I am sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

  • midge333
    midge333 Member Posts: 332
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    I am sorry for your loss.

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