Mom is at peace

Quilting brings calm

Mom passed away early this afternoon. My son and I were with her. I hadn’t been there very long. The change between last night and noon today was a lot.

She’s at peace now. I’m continuing to feel numb - but l do feel relief.

forbarbara

I have to believe that in time we’ll remember who they were before they were PWDs. Your mother had such a strong and loving caregiver in you. I hope you find time to remember the good times.

Emily 123

I'm so sorry QBC. I pray for peace of mind for you and your family. You took wonderful care of her through challenging times. Please take care of yourself.

HangingIn

I'm so sorry. Wishing you peace and comfort.

Phoenix1966

Rest easy knowing you did everything you could for her.

GothicGremlin

@Quilting brings calm — I am so sorry on the loss of your mom. I'm glad you and your son were able to be there with her, and I'm glad she's at peace now. Just know that you have always been such a strong caregiver for your mom even through so many challenges. She was so lucky to have you by her side.

And for both you and @forbarbara — I can tell you both that after some period of time, you'll be able to remember the good times, and who your loved ones were before Alzheimer's stepped in and destructed everything. I'm living proof of that. I'm not completely there yet, but now when I talk to the other members of "Team Peggy", we do talk about the good times. It's nice to be able to share fun memories of her and smile and laugh about those memories, and not cry over them. Only very rarely do we discuss the bad times.

hiya

I’m so sorry for your loss. Your mum is now at peace and healed. You have been a wonderful caregiver.

housefinch

Sending you comfort and sympathy.

SDianeL

so sorry for your loss. I know you are relieved her suffering is over. Sending love and hugs. 🙏

Quilting brings calm

@SDianeL I am definitely relieved that she’s not suffering any more. Her decline sort of condensed stages 5-7 into a few weeks. I’m undecided if it was stages 5-7 or just the decline of old age and ailments and not eating that took her. She didn’t want to go through the long goodbye that is dementia, and I do think she got her wish.

Jgirl57

QBC, I have learned through your experience and I now wish peace for you and your family .

Ash_95_

So sorry for your loss. She is in a better place now at peace with her memories back. Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Carl46

Sorry for your loss, QBC. I lost my mother in 2018 and I now remember her as the incredibly strong and loving woman she was before her illness. I very seldom think of her as she was in the last months. I hope the same for you. Close your eyes and remember the good.

ButterflyWings

Dear QBC - I have been away from the boards for months, and logged in this evening only to see your news. I am sorry for your loss but glad for the relief to your mom and her loved ones. You have been an angel in the midst of this horrid disease. Wishing you peace, and eventually joy once again. Noting the expedited progression, some would say she dodged a bullet, though it is hard for us to let them go regardless. May she rest in peace.

Quilting brings calm

@ButterflyWings

Thank you so much. I’m going to miss the companionship of this forum. I’m sure I will check in again from time to time.

Iris L.

Please accept my condolences in the loss of your dear Mom.

Iris

harshedbuzz

@Quilting brings calm

I am sorry for your loss. You have gone above and beyond in this situation. Wishing you peace as you turn your attention and move forward.

HB

H1235

I am so sorry for your loss.

clarinetist

Very sorry to hear this sad news. You did a wonderful job of supporting and advocating for her, and can rest assured that you did all you possibly could to help her in her final journey.

fmb

@Quilting brings calm

I am so sorry to learn of your mom's death. You were an exemplary caregiver for her and an example for us all. Please be extra kind to yourself in the coming days and weeks as you begin to heal. You will be missed here in this forum. ((hugs))

Russinator

I am sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

JeriLynn66

Peace be with you QBC. Holding you close in prayer.

MN Chickadee

My condolences QBC. You did an awesome job for her and your stepfather, and they were lucky to have you. Sounds like they weren't always the best parents, esp your sf, and maybe they didn't deserve such attentive care, but you did it anyway and they were fortunate to have such a generous person to be their caregiver. Take time and be gentle with yourself, and I hope in time you get to do the traveling and things for you that were put on hold. Peace.

SusanB-dil

Ho QBC - so sorry. Thank you for sharing in 'this' journey with mom. At times, sure not easy. May you remember the good things, now.

midge333

I am sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

tigersmom

@Quilting brings calm , I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. My DH departed in much the same way — from stage 5 to stage 7 in seven weeks— and it has been hard to accept. But I am glad that your mom is finally at peace. I hope that in time, that will come to you as well.

jen ht

Sending you love and support. Wishing you peace and healing. You are not alone.

TrumpetSwan

@Quilting brings calm - In case you do check back here again, I also wanted to send my condolences to you. I am glad you say that you feel relief. As others have said, your mother had a supportive and caring child with you, and you were there with her throughout her journey. I hope knowing that gives you peace.

Jo C.

Dear Q; I extend my heartfelt sympathy to you for the loss of your mother. You have been on a long and complex journey and have gone the distance.

Please know that even after our LO passes, we are still members of this large electronic family if we wish to remain connected. I have done this. If you wish, you can continue to Post on this site, it will be respected; I have found it so.

With a soft hug being sent your way,

J.

easy23

So sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace.

Quilting brings calm

I haven’t left yet. Probably won’t leave entirely for sometime. Likely won’t be here multiple times a day anymore. We bought a house a few weeks ago. So I will be clearing out mom’s this week, then decluttering ours, packing, Christmas-ing and moving in January after the closing date. Then we will put our current house on the market.