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Mom is at peace

Mom passed away early this afternoon. My son and I were with her. I hadn’t been there very long. The change between last night and noon today was a lot.

She’s at peace now. I’m continuing to feel numb - but l do feel relief.

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  • forbarbara
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    I have to believe that in time we’ll remember who they were before they were PWDs. Your mother had such a strong and loving caregiver in you. I hope you find time to remember the good times.

  • Emily 123
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    edited November 30

    I'm so sorry QBC. I pray for peace of mind for you and your family. You took wonderful care of her through challenging times. Please take care of yourself.

  • HangingIn
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    I'm so sorry. Wishing you peace and comfort.

  • Phoenix1966
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    Rest easy knowing you did everything you could for her.

  • hiya
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    I’m so sorry for your loss. Your mum is now at peace and healed. You have been a wonderful caregiver.

  • housefinch
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    Sending you comfort and sympathy.

  • SDianeL
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    so sorry for your loss. I know you are relieved her suffering is over. Sending love and hugs. 🙏

  • Quilting brings calm
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    @SDianeL I am definitely relieved that she’s not suffering any more. Her decline sort of condensed stages 5-7 into a few weeks. I’m undecided if it was stages 5-7 or just the decline of old age and ailments and not eating that took her. She didn’t want to go through the long goodbye that is dementia, and I do think she got her wish.

  • Jgirl57
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    QBC, I have learned through your experience and I now wish peace for you and your family .

  • Ash_95_
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    So sorry for your loss. She is in a better place now at peace with her memories back. Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

  • Carl46
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    Sorry for your loss, QBC. I lost my mother in 2018 and I now remember her as the incredibly strong and loving woman she was before her illness. I very seldom think of her as she was in the last months. I hope the same for you. Close your eyes and remember the good.

  • ButterflyWings
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    Dear QBC - I have been away from the boards for months, and logged in this evening only to see your news. I am sorry for your loss but glad for the relief to your mom and her loved ones. You have been an angel in the midst of this horrid disease. Wishing you peace, and eventually joy once again. Noting the expedited progression, some would say she dodged a bullet, though it is hard for us to let them go regardless. May she rest in peace.

  • Quilting brings calm
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    edited November 30

    @ButterflyWings

    Thank you so much. I’m going to miss the companionship of this forum. I’m sure I will check in again from time to time.

  • Iris L.
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    Please accept my condolences in the loss of your dear Mom.

    Iris

  • harshedbuzz
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    @Quilting brings calm

    I am sorry for your loss. You have gone above and beyond in this situation. Wishing you peace as you turn your attention and move forward.

    HB

  • H1235
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    I am so sorry for your loss.

  • clarinetist
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    Very sorry to hear this sad news. You did a wonderful job of supporting and advocating for her, and can rest assured that you did all you possibly could to help her in her final journey.

  • fmb
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    @Quilting brings calm

    I am so sorry to learn of your mom's death. You were an exemplary caregiver for her and an example for us all. Please be extra kind to yourself in the coming days and weeks as you begin to heal. You will be missed here in this forum. ((hugs))

  • Russinator
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    I am sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

  • JeriLynn66
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    Peace be with you QBC. Holding you close in prayer.

  • MN Chickadee
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    My condolences QBC. You did an awesome job for her and your stepfather, and they were lucky to have you. Sounds like they weren't always the best parents, esp your sf, and maybe they didn't deserve such attentive care, but you did it anyway and they were fortunate to have such a generous person to be their caregiver. Take time and be gentle with yourself, and I hope in time you get to do the traveling and things for you that were put on hold. Peace.

  • SusanB-dil
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    Ho QBC - so sorry. Thank you for sharing in 'this' journey with mom. At times, sure not easy. May you remember the good things, now.

  • midge333
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    I am sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

  • tigersmom
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    @Quilting brings calm , I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. My DH departed in much the same way — from stage 5 to stage 7 in seven weeks— and it has been hard to accept. But I am glad that your mom is finally at peace. I hope that in time, that will come to you as well.

  • jen ht
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    Sending you love and support. Wishing you peace and healing. You are not alone.

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AL = Assisted Living
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