Vacation

cdgbdr

My husband has moderate vd dementia. Prior to this dx, we bought a timeshare that I am still paying on. The idea of not being able to travel and use that is awful to me. I still work full time and have a companion with him most of the day.

Our last vacation was when I saw a huge difference in him and he "lost" the memory of us being married.

We are at the beach now. We traveled by car and met friends halfway. My friend's DH drove with him yesterday and they shopped and had lunch along the way.

Other than getting pissy because it took me too long to get the rental car, it's been ok.

I think traveling in the daylight helps. I know there's not always going to be someone willing to come along. Wish me luck!

annie51

Enjoy your much needed time away while you can! It’s great to have friends along, too. I have given up on most travel with DH and it breaks my heart - it was a big part of our life for so long.

I hope it goes well!

Bailey's Mom

I'm thankful that DH & I traveled so much when we were younger…don't really want to do it much now, anyway. Our last…and probably final…vacation was just 4 hrs away and only for 3 days. He also didn't know who I was briefly on the last day. I didn't realize how hard it would be for him and I doubt that we will try it again. Hope you can keep doing it for awhile and enjoy yourself.

Biggles

We traveled a lot, sailed the coast a lot, flew our plane a lot and I am so thankful that we did all this when we could and when our children were young they traveled with us. The memories are so very special. It’s been extremely hard to stop and awful for my DH to be so home bound, he still thinks we could buy a yacht or a plane and start again. Oh boy do I wish! I have found it easier to lie and say I just don’t want to go, he of course can no longer drive and thinks I am stopping him from driving. It’s all so heartbreaking especially when friends are gallivanting around the globe! Being still isn’t easy it’s a learned art. With the help of a new puppy, a new group ‘Sailability’ and some very supportive people around us. We have had a couple of 4 day holidays but strange surroundings, hallucinations, wakeful nights etc. make it very hard. Good luck keep trying until it becomes too hard.