Very sorry

F&E

Hi y’all. I have not been reading or writing lately. I wish everyone love, mercy, understanding, acceptance and peace on their journey. My wife and I are not doing well on ours. She is in stage seven, stuck in a bed or Jerry chair mumbling and not eating. She looks very unhappy and suffering. I don’t want to be a widower but Today I prayed for God to take her to Heaven where she can be at peace and won’t suffer in agony any more It’s a bad and good thing at the same time I am heartbroken and miserable crying all the time. If you have read this far thank you and I would appreciate any and all kind words. Bye now

BPS

I understand your prayers. My wife is not that far along but she has no joy or happiness. Even at this stage it is hard to watch and be part of.

Carl46

I am sorry, F&E. Noone wants to be a widower, but I guess you and I will be forced into it. It sounds like there are worse things than being a widower, and you are in it. You are a good husband, and I hope you will have a peaceful ending to this soon.

SDianeL

so sorry. I know what you’re going through. I lost my DH Aug 12. I too prayed his suffering would end. Is she under hospice?

Jgirl57

F&E, it is a long and emotionally draining journey. I am glad you shared your thoughts with “us”. It really is sad what our loved ones go through and the toll it takes on the caregiver. Sending (((HUGS)))

Biggles

Dear F&E I am so sorry you are having such a terrible time. It’s a horrible journey that no one wants or should go through. I sit by my DH while he sleeps during the day, I use up my emotional energy crying and writing poetry or at least words that are telling my story. I don’t share this with anyone it’s my private grief I always write the date and I can see just where I was and where my DH has been. This site is the best place for airing your grief. Everyone is so kind and understanding. Use this as your grief catcher. Sending hugs and loads of care.

Biggles

DWTired

Biggles said it best! This is a very comforting site with lots of understanding and kindness as we are all on the same journey.Hugs💕

charley0419

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/71378/very-sorry

don’t feel guilty I was just praying the same. As I don’t know what will be with my wife if something happens to me , sad to say not sure kids will do right thing. I always say when it’s your time to go it’s just your loved ones that suffer as your finally at peace. Boy does this illness Suck!!!

Joe C.

I’ll will keep you and your wife in my thoughts and prayers.

Petra2024

dear F&E it’s so hard to see our loved ones suffer. Your feelings are totally understandable and I’d bet most of us here have felt the same thing. My prayers are with you.

midge333

@F&E : I don't know how anyone could want "more time" for their spouse in stage 7. Stage 7 = suffering! What you are feeling is normal and demonstrates your love for your wife. Personally, I do not want my wife to suffer another day of this dreaded disease.

DTSbuddy

My DH took a tumble and pulled muscles & bruised himself so we have stopped our daily walks, so now his sleep, and mine, is disturbed. He has no language, stage 6 probably, and rarely smiles. I am struggling too. Misery loves company, and I appreciate your sharing as it makes me feel less alone. Hope you can find some rays of sunlight.

jfkoc

We are here and truly understand. This is a rough journey so please do lean on us as you make your way.

Lills

My DH was bed bound for 18 months. It was a horrific time for him. He died 4/2022 and I can now look back and mostly remember the happier, healthier times. Someday….I hope you will be able to also remember the good years.

I understand.

SPin-need

I understand and share your pain and the disturbing realization that you want the one thing you have never wanted. I wish you peace.

F&E