Honor those who passed away from Alzheimer's

gglorious7

I want to tell my mother's story about the 12 years she suffered with Alzheimer's. I am in a legal battle with family who all turned their backs on my mother when she needed them the most, all they care about is the inheritance. My mother and I made an verbal agreement 13 years ago that if I moved in to care for her till death that I would get her home . My mother also made it clear to both POAs/ trustees that those were her wishes . The agreement wasn't written only verbally spoken . The trustee is now wanting to break that agreement . I fulfilled my part of the agreement . I need legal representation. Any suggestions???

ThisLife

I don't have a great deal to offer here. I do think you need legal advice from your own attorney that has an experience with trusts.

GothicGremlin

You should absolutely speak with an attorney about this. Also something to think about — when you and your mom discussed setting up the house situation, did you tell anyone about that arrangement at the time (besides the POAs/trustees)? It could be used as evidence that an agreement existed.

Victoriaredux

You'd need a litigator with elder law experience , if the promise of the house for was made after dementia was documented - you'd have a higher bar to overcome. And if your mother knew of legal tools that could have expressed her wishes but didn't use them … it won't be easy .

I've known of people who promised the same item/amount of money to a number of people. The PWD was enjoying all the fawning and left the heirs stuck in a legal mess.

You could also see a labor lawyer about the possibility of collecting back wages for your years of care giving.

Easy to say , but just focus on the dollars and not the lack of help from the other heirs - think about what number would satisfy if getting the house completely doesn't seem possible. Settle for what you can and know you had the time with your Mom and no trustee can ever take that away from you.

I see in another post she passed in 2023 — you need to move QUICKLY before the estate/trust is settled. There are timelines .