Feeling Happily Empowered

Biggles · December 5

It’s not often that I feel empowered these days. My DH has VD stage 6 we have sleepless nights wandering around the house, Christmas shopping sprees ha ha that take hours slowly shuffling from store to store hand in hand (which I do love) BUT yesterday we had a new tv delivered, my idea Christmas gift to us. Good idea except setting it up drove me to distraction, anger, frustration (a change from directing all this energy towards my DH) I sat, I read, I pushed buttons, I thought how stupid I was to think I could do this (previously all electronics was done by my DH) but this morning, with slightly fresh eyes it all came together! Success I cried! And I did it myself!!! Never give up! xx

Biggles · December 5

jsps139_ · December 5

Way to go! It’s the successes that keep us going - big or small - we’ll take them! Sometimes exhaustion makes things more difficult - glad you tried again this morning. You did it👏👏👏

annie51 · December 5

Congratulations! I can understand that sense of accomplishment as well as the frustration that goes along with it. I remember how happy I was when I was able to remove the pop up from the bathroom sink to clean a clog! My DH was the best handyman until the disease took over, but luckily I usually helped him when I could so i learned a lot from that about use of tools, etc. It’s been a big help.

White Crane · December 6

Good for you!!!

LJCHR · December 6

Good for you!! You sound like us: VD, DH shuffling slowly thru the stores hand in hand. I could have written that.

midge333 · December 6

Dementia in a spouse forces the caregiver to do things they never imagined doing. One of the reasons that Bill's cavalry post resonates with so many of us. Every stage seems impossibly hard until you move to the next one. There is nothing good about stages 6 & 7 - it is all suffering. I long for my wife to be free of her suffering and I will do nothing to prolong it.