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Hi Nicole - welcome to 'here', but sorry for the reason.
We understand. Caregiver burnout is real! It does sound like you need a break! You go ahead and vent, because 'this' is hard!
I'm sorry you are dealing with 'this'. Your dad is blessed to have you watching out for him. But you do need to take care of you!
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Welcome! Talk to an elder law attorney if you haven't done so yet. It's important to make sure that you manage selling the house in such a way that he will qualify for Medicaid if needed down the road. Once you're dealing with dementia, things are so expensive that a lawyer visit is cheap insurance.
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Welcome to the group. Nicole. I hope things go smoothly with your house sale. This is a great place to vent, and to gain insight. The tip about visiting a lawyer sounds like good advice.
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Hi @Ccruzado also welcome to 'here'…
Agree - a lot of 'this' is frustrating. You can see on many posts that siblings and other family members are sometimes more hassle than helpful. Not alone on that at all.
It is not uncommon for a PWD to mistake 'the person in the mirror' as someone else. They do not see themselves in that manner any longer, so that person must be someone else. It can be especially unnerving for them if they think someone else is in the bathroom with them.
So sorry you are dealing with 'this', and really bad with both folks. They are blessed to have you watching out for them.
Is paperwork in order? DPOA and HIPAA access? Are they still living alone?
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For HIPAA - you can get the form from the doctor's office and your parent can sign. OR the office can verify while you are both at the doctor's office. OR… best case… it should be written into the DPOA as ours was. Bring the DPOA paper to the doctor's office for verification that you are allowed the access.
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Please forgive me if I have misunderstood...are you locking him in a room at night? Without you or a cognizant caregiver available? I think this would be considered imprisonment or even abusive, even if you are doing it to keep him from wandering. If nothing else, very dangerous in case of a fire, gas leak or similar emergency.
I sympathize with your frustration. It doesn't sound safe for them to be unsupervised at night or daytime.
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