She has gone to heaven

F&E

I cry as I write this. My wife passed yesterday at 2AM. Now I am suffering in stage eight. I don’t know what to do in order to feel better. So I thought I would write my awe full feelings down and send them away. I know others have gone threw this. I am nervous and restless. I am very sad I miss my wife so much. I feel lost and alone without her.it seems like there is not much left to live for. or any reason to do anything. Living life is horrible right now. I tell myself that as time passes things will get better. I try to be positive and imagine a better future but right now it seems impossible I just can’t see it happening. I feel so hopeless and destroyed. So there, I rwrote it down in type .I am going to tell my bad feelings goodbye and send them away. If I sound crazy it is because I am out of my mind in emotional pain and it’s the grief talking. Thank y’all for reading. all responses will be appreciated very much

annie51

My deepest condolences to you. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I hope that sending your feelings to us will help in some small way. Think of how happy your wife is now, free from the prison of dementia. You will get through this - caregivers have a special kind of strength. Hugs and prayers for you.

Quilting brings calm

Life will get better. My spouse suffers from depression and he has always said that four word sentence gets him through on bad days. We lost our son over 18 months ago and I can tell you life gets better. Will you forget your spouse? Of course not. But there are things and people to live for- and there are ways to be happy. For now? Just sleep, eat, read, binge watch tv. The rest will come later.

Joe C.

My sincere condolences on the loss of your dear wife. May you find some peace in the days ahead.

fmb

I am so sorry for the loss of your dear wife. And no, you do not sound crazy. The emotional pain and grief are devastating, especially this early in your grief journey. As much as we think we have grieved before our loved one dies, it still hits hard when they do leave us. QBC gives some very good advice. Cut yourself a lot of slack and take very good care of yourself. Surround yourself with people who truly care and will support you. Slowly but surely the pain will eventually ease and you will again know peace and joy. ((hugs))

clarinetist

So sorry to hear of your loss. Hope writing down your feelings helped. Be kind to yourself as you work through your grief.

ronda b

So sorry for your loss.

midge333

I am sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

Kat63

So sorry for your loss. I can feel your pain and understand your terrible grief. Please know we care and my hope for you is that each day gets a little bit easier and memories of your wife and your life together help to carry you forward.

--Rebecca--

F&E, I am so very sorry. I wish my words could help ease your grief. I send you love and comfort. I hope each day gets easier.

Stan2

I am so sorry. Please try to take care of yourself.

Carl46

I am very sorry for your loss. It gets easier, with time. You never forget, but in time you will remember more of the good times and less of the bad.

Jgirl57

We are here for you as you stumble through stage 8. So very sorry for you. The ache that others feel who faced their loved ones death is brutal as well as relief. I dread it.

Victoriaredux

I'm sorry , dementia losses are so hard - we mourn their loss for years ahead of time and those "living with the disease years" are not the future we wanted.

But she wasn't just those years , I hope in time you can remember her with fond memories of the years you shared - those are always yours to have in your heart . The happy years live on in your memories of her , and for others who will miss her — you will be a remembrance of her presence here.

Take time for you now, you'll have a lot to do with settling things but they can wait a bit.

She was blessed to have been loved and cared for by you for so long.

Carmen M

So sorry for your loss. Concentrate on the happy moments and embrace the happiness and love you both shared.

Be kind to yourself and her memories will live on.

ImMaggieMae

I am very sorry for the loss of your wife. May your memories of your lives together bring you peace in the coming months.

Mint

Im sorry for your loss of DW.

White Crane

My heart goes out to you at this sad time. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear wife. Please know that you are not alone. We are all here for you and care about you. Be gentle with yourself and give yourself time to grieve and to heal. Your heart is wounded and needs to rest. Sending hugs and prayers.

Brenda

Russinator

So sorry for your loss.

SDianeL

so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband Lonny August 12 and know how you feel. I make a list every day of things I want to accomplish that day. It helps to stay busy. Someone posted here about “thought stopping” to help with grief. It works sometimes. My wise Mom said when you lose someone you love to do things that honor their memory. I made a list of things I could do to do that. Someone else posted “Grief is the price we pay for love” Your wife was lucky to have you. Cherish the memories. She wouldn’t want you to be sad. Hugs.

hiya

I’m so sorry for your loss. It takes time to process all the emotions. Time and giving yourself grace will help this journey. In time, you will begin to remember your wife pre-dementia and reflect on happy memories. Big hugs

CampCarol

My sincere condolences on the loss of your DW. Please give yourself some grace; your feelings are very raw right now. As time passes, you’ll be able to see things in a different light and hopefully remember and appreciate the wonderful times you had together. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this most difficult time.

Dio

My condolences to you and your family for your loss! As the seasons change and colors turn, so will the grieving period. You will see sunshine and feel the warmth again. Be comforted in knowing that your wife is free from suffering and in a good place. She'd want you to thrive, not shrivel. Be kind to yourself. All things do come to past.

ALCB

I am so sorry for your loss. Just remember—things will get easier and this difficult time will pass. Be kind to yourself. My condolences.

trottingalong

I am really sorry. I’m sure it’s so raw right now. I hope with time the pain eases.

Biggles

In another life someone said to me (our carefree 20’s) “life’s crap, then you die” . At the time we laughed and I thought what a loser but you know there are times in your life when I think this saying holds some truth, and I think this is one of them. I know I will feel destroyed when my DH passes. All I can say is one step at a time, don’t try too hard just keep moving ever so slowly forward, the sun will shine again. Take care we are all still here for you.

Jazzma

Cry until you can't cry any more. Then you will cry again. Remember to eat something and drink fluids. Sleep if you can. Deep grief is like a severe illness, in my experience, and while it will eventually ease you need to survive the days when it is most acute. For me, seeing a therapist helped — as did antidepressants. Having someone — anyone — you can talk to, cry to, someone to hold your hand, can help.