Stuck between a rock and a hard place

JayBreezy

I have recently come into caring for my estranged veteran father, 74, who I rescued from homelessness has undiagnosed dementia. He can't remember things he said 5 minutes ago but remembers things from long ago. His ex partner left him broke. He refuses to see a doctor so I am not able to find proper resources for him. I do not have any kind of legal authority so he is currently able to make his own decisions. I can't send him back to California ( he wants to go back) but I am getting no where keeping him here with me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

mabelgirl

thank you for taking the steps you have done to keep him safe. I believe your recourse is to have the state seek guardianship. I would also call your local office on elder affairs and seek their advice. Prayers for success in keeping him safe.

JM27

Hi,

Sorry for what you are going thru. VA will help you get power of attorney. You can also apply for 100 percent disability thru VA for him having demetia. Also if he has a certain percent of service connect depending what state your in VA will also cover him going to a VA facility that cares for demetia veterans.

Call a VA office in your area they will help you.

I would look into it now as it can take 3 month minimum to get approved ect.

JeriLynn66

800-272-3900 is the ALZ hotline # for this site. Ask for a Care Consultant. They are licensed and trained Social Workers who may assist you in problem solving and locating resources.

eaglemom

First off, thank you for what you have done for him. Him being a Veteran should give you some different opportunities.

I realize he doesn't want to see a doctor, etc. But personally, I think you need to seek information for him. Find out what you can and share it with him. Offer to be there with him at the appointments if he wants. What I'm trying to say is show him you are wanting to help him be the best he can be.

eagle