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I have Covid and DH in MC is on the verge of pneumonia

What a way to end the year! I came down with Covid this week and the Dr. prescribed Paxlovid. Unfortunatley, I am having a reaction to it and have had to stop taking it. Meanwhile, DH has a deep cough and his lungs are filling up. The nurse said he is heading into pneumonia. His oxygen level is still good though so he is not hospitalized. I am praying he doesn't have to be hospitalized as it is so convusing and scary for him. Other residents are also coming down with the same thing so even without Covic it would be hard for me to visit due to my lung problems…asthma and COPD. I am so worried about him and have been crying wanting to comfort him and not able to. Meanwhile, I am still battling Covid and it's really hard to be sick and be all alone.

Brenda

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  • Karen711
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    Oh Brenda- this is a tough one! I’m sure your DH will be well looked after but it is VERY tough be to on your own not feeling at all well. Is there anyone in your circle (neighbor, friend, relative) to call and ask for a soup drop off and a telephone check in am/pm? Time to ask for help if there’s anyone nearby. Please stay in touch here and let us know how you’re doing!!!

    Sending Love and virtual chicken soup💕

    Karen

  • trottingalong
    trottingalong Member Posts: 451
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    I’m so sorry Brenda. You are right, being sick alone is difficult and depressing. Your body is fighting so much right now. Try hard to focus on yourself and getting better. The faster you heal, the faster you will be there for your DH. Seems like a lot of respiratory illnesses are going around this winter. My DH also has COPD, so I know that adds another component on you. Your husband is in good hands and they will do what’s best for him, so you do what’s best for you. And don’t be afraid to call someone for help if you need it. That includes going to the hospital. I will be thinking about you and checking in.

  • Gig Harbor
    Gig Harbor Member Posts: 568
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    White Crane I am sorry to hear about your problems. As a former ER nurse I would like to prepare you for what might happen. If your husband goes into respiratory distress he will be transported to the ER. Once there he will be assessed and if he is critical he will be intubated and put on a ventilator. Given his history you may be asked if you want to do everything possible or just treat to keep him comfortable and allow him to pass. I had to make this decision for my husband when he collapsed after breakfast at his memory care. The medics arrived and determined he was having a heart attack. I asked them to put him in bed and make him comfortable. He passed within 24 hours. I did not want him sent to the hospital and then likely to the cath lab. He had lived a good life and was now confined to a wheelchair and did not recognize anyone. He would have been horrified to see where Alzheimer’s had taken him. He believed in God and heaven. He was a good man and going to heaven was what he would have chosen so I chose for him. Just because the ability to prolong life exists I don’t think we always have to choose it. I sincerely hope it doesn’t come down to you having to make this choice but if it does just follow your heart.

  • --Rebecca--
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    Sending you and your DH prayers of healing and strength. I'm sorry you can't be with him while he's sick. I'm sorry you are battling Covid while alone.

  • Biggles
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    I am so sorry what an awful mess and struggle for you and it’s Christmas. My heart goes out to you and your DH. It is my greatest fear of getting sick and not being able to take care of or be near my DH. We all care and feel so much towards our LO, my friends don’t understand this it’s amazing. I am so sorry you are battling this, please know you are not alone.

  • Iris L.
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    Have him checked for whooping cough. It is going around and causes deep coughing spasms. Treatment is with erythromycin, not the usual pneumonia medications. Of course, supportive care, such as hydrationand whatever else might be indicated.

    I had it in October and I am still coughing.

    Iris

  • Jgirl57
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    sorry to hear you are both sick. Not fun. Hugs to you

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,038
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    so sorry Brenda. Hope you recover quickly and get to visit soon. Hugs.

  • SDianeL
    SDianeL Member Posts: 1,038
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    Brenda, I agree with what Gig Harbor posted. I too made the decision not to transport my DH to the ER when he had aspiration pneumonia. They made him comfortable and he passed peacefully the next afternoon. Why put him through that. Praying for you both. 🙏💜

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