Some people just don't get it

jehjeh

Most friends and family members have some idea of how to relate to my DH who has dementia. But there are a few who don't understand they can't have the same kind of conversation they used to have with him. They keep correcting him when he mixes up details, or says something totally nonsensical. Even had a visiting nurse argue with him about meds his doctor had prescribed. I told her not to come back.

After these conversations I am left to deal with the fallout (anger, confusion) Often, I just piece it all together long after the fact. I try to help them understand but some are simply not teachable.

Just needed to rant. Thanks

Biggles

I know how you feel, I can understand some people not getting it but professional people do my head in and I have done the same as you and told whoever not to come back. We are our DH’s carers and protectors they have no one else and deserve our protection, respect, care and love. Well done.

ronda b

So glad you had that nurse not come back. She is in the wrong field.

psg712

My mom was in a rehab facility last year for physical therapy after a hospital stay. It truly blew my mind to see the number of staff who had no concept of dementia. I could tell them a hundred times that she does not understand the need to apply toothpaste on the brush. They expected her to ask for the help she needed. She does not perceive her needs, nor can she articulate them. Even the PT needed to be told that remembering to lock her wheels before standing up from a wheelchair was not an attainable goal for her! I was so relieved when I could get her out of there and into memory care.

jsps139_

It is maddening when people just don’t listen to what you tell them about our LO’s dementia. All our neighbors know, and yet, they knock on our door and ask my husband to fix something in their apartment. He goes and has no idea what they are asking. I follow along and do the fixing and just shake my head.

Or, while I’m in the shower, they knock and give him a message to tell me. I have told them many times not to do that because he forgets what they said as soon as he closes the door. He forgets anyone even knocked on the door.

FRUSTRATING!!!!!!!