My kids and my mom

Family

My mom moved into our home ( mine and my husband) in August due to mild dementia. Our children have been less than supportive of this because it changes the dynamics when they visit. They think she is a stressor for me. She probably is but at this point I want her with us. I look at her being here as a gift. I can not get my kids to see it this way.

I don’t know what to do.

Quilting brings calm

We need more Information. How old are the kids? How old are you? How old is your mom? How are the dynamics changed? Can your mom be left alone? How are your kids’ lives affected? What does your spouse think about all this? Has one of you had to quit working?

mabelgirl

No matter how much we welcome the role of caretaker, I believe there will be a certain level of stress. That being said your children probably can see it clearer than you can. Be sure to take care of yourself and get respite help. Caretaking for my mom allowed dementia everything become routine. I assume your children are grown as you state it was the dynamic of the visit that were effected. If so you need to express to them the reward you feel taking care of your mom and how you are taking care of yourself. Prayers for peace and understanding.

nobaddays

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/71674/my-kids-and-my-mom

Family,

My husband and I moved my mom into our home in May of last year and even though our lives have drastically changed-

1. Added family drama of fighting false allegations from an entitled sibling with APS and the police department, all proven false.

3. Life long family relationships destroyed due to lies from same entitled (and evil) sibling, all because I ended her free ride off my mothers finances.

2. Weekly activities with husband of walks, hikes, and bike rides completely ceased.

3. Legal battles- in and out of court several times last year with entitled sister and more court hearings upcoming this year, fighting for conservatorship to protect my mother.

4. Working a full time job, while still caring for my mother, thankfully allowed to telework.

5. Worst of all- Witnessing my mothers decline due to this horrible disease.

I am still honored that I can take care of my mom at this critical time in her life. It must be so scary for our parents to lose their memory and ability to do the things they used to do so easily like bake, drive, finances, ect. I try my hardest every single day to make my moms life fulfilling and happy. We play games (cards or Yahtzee) together everyday and I try to take her some place each day. To be honest yes, it is difficult at times however, sadly I know I won't have my mom forever and would never think to put her anywhere else, each day is a chance to make more memories with her as this is the 'Long Good-Bye' :(

Keep Loving your mom and show your kids, this is what family does. Our parents took care of us when we were little and unable to care for ourselves, now it is our turn to give them the Best care we can as they deserve it.

God Bless You for taking care of and Loving your momma, you will never regret this time you have with her ♡.