Hypersexuality

bonkey

Its been a long time since I've posted, but his hypersexuality is much worse. He is not angry, or mean, or delusional, just talks about sex non stop. The only thing that makes me feel better is that I have caregivers who aren't nt phased by it, having seen it a million times. It makes me feel like I'm in a more normal world

charley0419

nothing normal about our world

jsmale

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/71720/hypersexuality

I think my husband is doing the same thing…when we are watching tv he is constantly making vague sexual comments

bonkey

I don't know what to say…people have had good luck with Seroquel and Respiradone, but they were terrible for my husband, he fell in the street, couldn't sit up, etc. After the first doses. I'm grateful he doesn't have worse behaviors

Palmetto Peg

Please check with your doctor about trying Cimetadine. It is the generic for Tagament, and studies have shown that it helps elderly men with dementia who have hypersexuality. My PCP researched it and we tried it for my DH and it worked!!!! He is so much better, and there are none of the terrible side effects with Seroquel and Risperadone. I was doubtful that something so simple could help, but it has made such a difference for me and all the female caregivers around him. Good luck - hypersexuality was so hard for me, and it was such a relief to have that quieted down.

bonkey

Im going to try it. What dosage, how many times a day?

Palmetto Peg

My husband takes 200 mg once a day. In the beginning he was taking 200 mg twice a day, but it has been reduced by half and still works. Good luck! It really changed things for me!

Bluebird

I am so glad you posted this. I haven’t post in a long time but my husband’s hyper sexuality is driving me crazy. Like your husband he talks about sex nonstop, is constantly looking at porn & has now decided he should be allowed to walk around with no clothes. He is also, every few minutes, asking me to have sex with him even though, like many men his age, he has ED. He’s also tried Respiradone but like your husband couldn’t tolerate it.

I’m going to try Cimetadine and see if it helps. Keep your fingers crossed for me.

bonkey

Sorry you have to deal with this but so glad someone understands this and how gloomy it can make a spouse feel. Days after my husband started Cimetidine he had a stomach virus and was really sick for days and I never went back to it. Now he talks the same way to any women he's around. Please let me know how it works for him. Good luck, please feel free to vent to me, I get it.

Bluebird

Thanks for the support. My husband started with the hyper sexuality last summer then after a month he moved on to being obsessed with the weather. Now he’s back to the hyper sexuality. I’m really hoping the Tagamet will work.

bonkey

The weather?

Palmetto Peg

My DH still takes the Cimetidine, and it is still working for him. His hypersexuality was so over the top, no memory care placement would have lasted more than a week. He still asks me now and then if I want to have sex, but he isn't asking others, or talking about sex all the time. He also takes no as an answer and just goes on to something else. It is such a relief! There are studies you can Google that explain how it works. Good luck!

Bluebird

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/237306#Comment_237306

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/237306#Comment_237306

He has an app that he looks at that gives the weather forecast by the hour each day. He writes down the hourly forecast Then follows me around the house all day long reading the forecast and comparing it to what the weather is actually doing. He drives me crazy with the weather forecast but it’s a whole lot better than the hyper sexuality.

Bluebird

How long did it take for the Cimetindine to work?

I started him on one tablet a day yesterday and thought I’d see how he does. I thought I’d try that for a week and if it doesn’t help increase it to 2 a day.

One of my worries is, like you, that no home would take him.

Your post made me feel so much better.

bonkey

Please let me know after a few days how it's going. Fingers crossed!

Bluebird

I thought I’d give an update on how things are going with my husband and his hyper sexuality. I started him on 200mg Cimetindine once a day. I don’t know if it takes a few days to build up in his system but for the first 3 days he was worse. He spent most of the days either talking about sex or looking at porn, on his phone, or walking around naked. I decided to increase the Cimetindine to 200 mg twice a day. I started him on the increase 2 days ago. Each morning while he’s in the shower I delete the history and cookies from his phone. I do this to try and get all the porn off his phone. This morning there was no porn on the phone. Yesterday he only talked about sex 5 or 6 times and kept his clothes on all day.

There is a definite improvement. I don’t know if it’s the Cimetindine or if his brain has moved on to other things. I’ll keep you updated as to whether he continues to improve or not.

Bluebird

I’m not so sure Cimetindine is really helping. He’s taking 200mg twice a day. He’s back to talking about sex most of the day. When I checked his phone it was full of porn again. I’ve put every block and restriction I could find but somehow he’s still accessing the sites. He’s also refusing to wear clothes again. I’m going to try calling his neurologist and see if there are any other medications that might help.

I’m glad this is one place where I can vent. Other people just don’t understand. I’ve had family and friends suggest I have him go to daycare a couple of days a week. No daycare is going watch him when he keeps talking about sex and keeps removing his clothes so, he can show off his private parts.

bonkey

I have learned that true professional nurses, aides, etc ( the people who do that work because they just want to help) just let it roll off their backs. They have heard it all before. I found that very comforting. I would speak to the director of the day care program; they might have suggestions or accomodations. When my husband went to a program, he wasn't doing that very much yet. Do you have any help in the home?

bonkey

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/237292#Comment_237292

How is it going with Cimetidine?

Bluebird

The Cimetidine is slowly helping. I looked up one of the studies they did with Cimetidine and PWD and the study said it can take up to 8 weeks to help. My husband will go a couple of days with no problems and then he’ll start talking about sex again but he now has more good days than bad. He has more and more good days and fewer and fewer bad days. It’s been several days since he exposed himself to me and he’s gone from looking at 20 porn sites in a day to looking at one site every 3 - 4 days. He still has his moments but nothing like before he started Cimetidine.

I can’t thank you enough for saying that Cimetidine helped your husband. I would never have tried it if it wasn’t for your post. He also has had no adverse reactions to Cimetidine.