Way to long and now he is gone

Kevcoy

Hello all, it has been way to long since I have posted or even been on this site. It was just too hard. I enrolled my DH into hospice the end of Sept. basically because of dramatic weight loss. He went from 175lbs in April to 145lbs in Sept. They have a hospice respice center with 10 beds where you loved ones can go for 5 nights to give the caregiver a respice break. Just before Thanksgiving I brought him there where he walked in with the use of his walker and seemed to like it pretty well and everyone there was so nice. The plan was to pick him up the day before Thanksgiving and bring him home but he was extreamely agitated and could bairly stand or walk that day. They asked me if I had a hospital bed and wheelchair at home and I said no so they said they could keep him a couple extra days while those would be ordered for me and they could bring him home in an ambulance. The bed and chair were delivered on Thanksgiving and he came home the next day and was put right into the bed that I had set up in the family room. The hospice nurse came over later that day and said he most likely suffered a major stroke and our goal should be to keep him as comfortable the next few days to week that he had left. The next few days friends and family came to say their goodbyes and our cat never left his side. He passed peacefully shortly after midnight, Dec. 5 at 71 years old. I am so grateful he was at home and our friends were able to have some closure. I'm also so lucky to have such wonderful neighbors who keep and eye out for me. I'm going to do a celebration of life in April, his birthday month, and then later this summer intern his ashes in Colorado where he wanted to be. I'm getting by one foot in front of the other. It's just so quiet.

Quilting brings calm

I’m sorry for your loss. I think you have good plans. Just take one day at a time - if you feel like doing something do. If the day feels like reading all day or binge watching mindless tv, then do that.

hiya

I hope you find peace knowing he is healed. Sending a big hug

White Crane

Kevcoy, i’m so sorry for the loss of your dear husband. I’m glad he was able to be at home with you and friends could come by. I hope you’re able to get some rest in the coming days. Sending hugs and prayers.

Brenda

Biggles

I am so sorry for your loss and send the deepest sympathy, we are all part of this extraordinary family going through the hardest and most stressful time. Thank you for sharing your journey so gently and so poignantly. I wish you good memories and peace. I am saddened and frightened thinking of the next stage of our journey. My DH is so loving, gentle and generous, he is loved by all those who meet him. Our ‘friends’ have dropped away and it’s now mainly medical staff or people that are involved with care and special needs. As you said one step at a time.

WIGO23

Words are inadequate to comfort us in times of loss. But please know that even among strangers here there is caring and concern for you as you navigate through this time. May good memories bring you peace.

Jgirl57

Peace Kevcoy to you and your family .

midge333

I am sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself.

RetiredTeacher

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I am thankful ypur husband's suffering is over and he is in a place of peace. It's a blessing he was ae to pass to the other side at home with you. I pray you find peace in knowing he is in a far better place and that he would want you to live the rest of your life to the fullest. Please continue to post about your journey. There is support here for you and most of us are not to the point where you are yet but we will be and want to hear about your journey.

fmb

I am so sorry for your loss. It is very good that you were able to bring him home and have the peace of knowing that you were able to honor his wishes. Thank you for sharing your journey.

Joe C.

My sincere condolences on the loss of your husband. May you find some peace in the days ahead.

SDianeL

so sorry for your loss. Cherish the beautiful memories you have. May he rest in peace. Hugs. 💜

mrahope

So sorry to hear of your husband's passing. Praying that peace and healing come to you in time.

harshedbuzz

@Kevcoy

I am sorry for the loss of your beloved husband.

HB

Russinator

((HUGS))

CampCarol

My sincere condolences on the loss of your DH. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this most difficult time as you enter stage 8. 🙏

mrsdee13

I am so sorry for your loss. I pray you have great memories and find comfort he is at peace. May your heart heal over time with lovely thoughts. Take care of yourself

Pat6177

kevcoy, thank you for coming back and letting us know your DH passed. Whatever the circumstances, it was good to hear from you. Be gentle with yourself during this transition into Stage 8.