My Mother has Passed and I Want to Say Thank You

Elyse Manteris

Hello, I have never posted on here before, but I have been reading posts since October when my mother with ALZ fell and broke her hip (at probably stage 5/6, at the time…though my brother and I did not know that), which moved her out of my brother's home and into MC. Our mother was a phenomenal woman and our best friend for our whole lives. She was nothing but love for us…until…. (insert dementia)….). Her cognitive decline was agonizing to watch, and the move to MC was sooooo difficult for her and us. It was not an easy transition (and she may never had settled completely). Literally, probably one of the hardest days of my life. I needed support and I found this forum (my brother was different than me and coping by himself in ways I simply could not have). . I have been reading all your stories, and listening to other's questions and the amazing responses full of valuable information. I was shocked (really dumbfounded, and sad I didn't find you all sooner) at the shared experiences so many of you spoke of that we had also experienced…and felt alone in…and did not realize others would/could understand. Last week our mother fell (for the 2nd time) and it broke her femur in half. There was no fixing it, the pain was otherworldly, and the trauma was too much to bear. She left us the following day. My brother and I were both with her. It was both heart shattering and beautiful at the same time. I came here today to say thank you to you all. The tab was still open on my computer and it reminded me of the really hard days, when I needed to hear that others understood…all the support I found here, even if none of you ever knew it., even if I never said it. My thoughts are with all of you who are suffering through this cruel and awful disease with your LOs. May you all find peace…in some way…some day. Really, truly, I could not have endured this without you. THANK YOU. And all my love. My mother was nothing but a blessing to me…and you all were the blessing to me when she couldn't be. Thank You again. All my heart to all of you.

hiya

hoping you can find peace knowing she felt deeply loved and is now healed.

harshedbuzz

@Elyse Manteris

I am sorry for the loss of your dear mother but I'm glad you found this place.

I am sorry her passing was not as gentle as she deserved but it was a blessing for her children to be with her at this sacred time.

HB

fmb

@Elyse Manteris

I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I am sorry that her death was not peaceful, but it was truly a gift that you and your brother could be with her in her final moments. Know that she is now at peace, with her broken body and confused mind healed.

This forum has been a literal lifesaver for many of us. This disease is so isolating for both the sufferer and the caregiver, and it is essential that we come together to share our experiences so all of us may benefit. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

SusanB-dil

Yes, we understand.

So sorry for the loss of your mom. ((Hugs))

ALCB

I'm so sorry for your loss. Hoping you can find comfort in the following days and weeks. As you know, we're all here whenever you need something.

psg712

Very sorry for the loss of your beloved mother. I'm glad that you found some comfort here.

mabelgirl

Condolences on losing your lovely mother. I pray you find peace in knowing she has been made whole now in Gods home.

VictoriaA

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/71879/my-mother-has-passed-and-i-want-to-say-thank-you

Elyse,

Sending lots of love and peace to you and your family. 🙏 May you all continue to find comfort.

I, too, have found profound relief and support from this forum, along with amazing guidance and resources. It feels surprising to me that I’ve only been reading the posts for a few weeks now. There is so much gold here... Grateful myself for this space.

Blessings to you always.

mickeymouse

I am so very sorry for your loss of your mother. As you mentioned it is a great forum for all from the beginning to even after. There might be ups and downs the coming days, but please know we are here for you. From one loving daughter to another

HUGS,

mickeymouse(Sue)

Anonymousjpl123

I am so sorry for your loss and glad you found comfort here. Losing a parent to dementia is a special kind of painful. I am wishing you and your brother solace and peace in this time of grieving.

Elyse Manteris

Again, as always, this place is amazing. Thank you all for the kind words and just understanding. So much support! Losing a parent is painful, but as Anonymousjpl123 said, I do believe that losing a parent to dementia is a special kind of painful. Thinking of you all and sending all my love.

--Rebecca--

Sending you love and strength. I'm glad you felt comfort here. It is nice to feel the support of fellow care givers in this group.