Why do i feel the need to be right?

Kalm

sandwichone123

We're taught from an early age that it's important to be right. Our teachers correct anyone that isn't right, and so do parents, so we learn from an early age that not only is it important for us to be right, but it's also important that others know we're right, and that we correct people that are not right.

This is some fundamental conditioning we're trying to overcome, so give yourself some grace. :-)

jehjeh

harshedbuzz

Hi and welcome @Kalm. I am sorry for the reason you're here, but pleased you found this place.

Right? In what context?

SusanB-dil

Hi Kalm - welcome to 'here', but sorry for the reason.

Are you trying to correct your LO? It doesn't work. Whatever the issue, that is their reality and how they see said issue.

Rule #1: Don't argue with a PWD. Rule #1: Take care of yourself. Rule #2: See rule #1, both of them.

Carl46

I let it go, except in emergencies. Emergencies involve blood or smoke. I have no problem with her eating avocado with her knife, but I make sure she doesn't have a steak knife.

Bailey's Mom

I have just learned to accept the blame for everything and agree with everything, no matter how bizarre. If HWD says he paid $15 for something he paid $5000 for I just say ok. I was always somewhat of a perfectionist and am reasonably intelligent, so this has been hard for me. Now, I understand that this is the way he sees the world and what he believes at the moment, so just I go with it…has nothing to do with me.

Stan2

The best advice I was given early in this journey was, " Don't be a right fighter", just let it go.

H1235

For me it’s not just about being right. I like to have the correct information. So if my loved one insists an actor (for example) is still alive and I think they have passed, it bugs me until I have the correct answer. But as others have said the person with dementia is always right. It really the best approach.

jfkoc

You can always google for the correct answer but no need to "set the record straight" with your LO.

One of life's big questions is "would you rather be right or be happy". I side with happy but have a daughter who picks right. The solution? I just let her be right and deal with what ever it is on my own.