Mom recently entered MC and not sure if I should visit

amy08111968

My dad recently made the difficult decision to place my mom in MC. We dropped her off just over a week ago and she is having a very hard time adjusting. She goes between being angry at my dad and desperate for him to bring her back home. I was cleared, so to speak, to visit 4 days in since she was not asking for me and have been visiting her every day since. My friend was checking on her until I was able to visit and noted that my mom was making friends (CNAs tell me the same) and seemingly acclimating to her new surroundings. 2 out of the 5 days I’ve visited she seemed pretty medicated and the other 3 she is just wanting me to take her home. Of the 3 days she is either mad at my dad for not picking her up or like today seemed to be having an anxiety attack.

My question…
Should I keep visiting daily? Not sure if I’m causing more harm than good. Or take a break to see if she will acclimate. I know…there is no science so just looking for advice. This is breaking my heart.

Quilting brings calm

take a break, this is a marathon not a sprint. It’s going to take her a while to adjust. She is going to ask to come home. But the reasons she is there rather than home still apply.

SDianeL

My DH asked to come home every time I visited. when my DH would ask to come home I would say when the doctor says so and quickly change the subject. When I left each time I did not tell him goodbye. I would just slip out. Visiting less often probably won’t stop her from asking.