Over Stimulation

Doingitalone

My DH son and girlfriend recently visited with their 2 year old grandson and he was SO loud and rambunctious. The next morning my DH didn't feel well, said he was cold (no fever) was stumbling and talking completely out of his head about something we couldn't understand. I think he lost most of the day. Later in the afternoon he was back to his normal norm but I think he was overstimulated. Is that a thing?

rickey3

hi. I have been on this connection thing only a few other times. This is the first I have commented. I am here because the last few days have been terrible and made us both cry. Kind of like what happened to u. We went to the grocery store. Don’t do much of that because we do curbside mostly. But we needed a few things right away. Anyway we started normal enough but then I couldn’t reach something. Unfortunately he could reach but there were two different frozen fish on the same shelf. He also is hard of hearing. So he got confused, I thought he couldn’t hear me so I raised my voice. He got mad and things got bad and we ended up leaving the store with nothing. He came home and has spent over 24 hours sleeping. Got up once and cried and said that he didn’t want to live, slept more. We talked today and once he told me he felt so useless he was just lashing out. Anyway we decided it was too much confusion and noise that we wouldn’t do it again.. curbside or nothing. Nothing is worth this. He felt better and said thank u and went to bed again. I wasn’t prepared for this at all. I am so up with myself I can’t stand it.

Doingitalone

Don't feel bad, I've raised my voice before also. It just comes from frustration on both sides. It's just the 2 of us so normally it's pretty quite at our house. So, I'm thinking just too much noise and activity. He loves company but truthfully, I was happy to see them leave. 😉 Hang in there.

rickey3

we can avoid large stores. I wasn’t prepared, it just happened that he can’t take it. I have noticed that my husband had problems with family to but different. He is bothered by too much going on at the same time and turns off. He can’t keep up with even a 2 person conversation sometimes. Especially if it is too fast for him. His mind fills in what he didn’t catch and is totally off some where else. Christmas parties he was so happy to come home. Thankfully we are mostly just with each other too

ImMaggieMae

I think that the more things progress with this disease, the more important regular routines become. My DH is late stage 6/early 7, and I think it’s comforting for him to know what to expect, to the extent he can. I find that as a caregiver, regular routines have become more important to me as well, even though the sameness of each day can be frustrating too.

Sandi Roe

yep, lost my LO in the market yesterday. He loves the market but buys double everything. So lesson learned, don’t say I’ll be right back , he just doesn’t get it

CindyBum

Whenever I go to the supermarket with my DW, which is less and less, I often internally sing the words to a song I remember from my college days in the early 80s.

I'm all lost in the supermarket
I can no longer shop happily
I came in here for that special offer
A guaranteed personality

v3

It's hard to take the steady stream of losses with these diseases.

I think of the old saw : Guy goes to his Doctor and says - "My neck hurts when I put my hand up behind my back and turn my wrist , what should I do? "

Doctor: " Stop doing that ."

So we learn what is dementia twister and "stop doing that " :)