Caretaker for parents with dementia

Analuisa

Both of my parents have dementia. My brother is autistic and we found a residence for him. He moved 2 months ago. My father has rage outbursts b/c my brother isn’t home. I want them to speak with each other. However I’m afraid of the chaos they will cause demanding that he come home but it’s not safe for my brother to live with them what should I do?

harshedbuzz

@Analuisa

Hi and welcome. I am sorry for your reason to be here, but pleased you found this place.

Strong work so far on arranging a placement for your brother now rather than making a moved after he's lost both parents. What you've done is best for him. Why, exactly, is dad angry? Is it a loss of control as patriarch? Loss of income from SSI? Is it loss of companionship? Could he be a little on spectrum and struggling with the change to his world?

If your dad is raging, he may need medication to dial back the strong emotions he's feeling right now. It might be best to disallow calls between dad and brother as your brother likely doesn't have the emotional bandwidth to process dad's outbursts. Placement for dad would also be an option that would allow brother to visit once he's settled.

HB