Hypersexuality

justbreathe2

My DH has been driving me crazy for a few years with sexual comments all day. The other day at doctor's office he told the nurse she had sexy shoes. This is the first time such comments were made to others. Never before this disease would he say something like that.

Several months I spoke with his geriatric doctor about his sexual comments to me. She said there are many out there, but the side effects scared me. She recommended Gabentin-100 mg but also side effects. Have any of you tried this one? I may look at Cimetidine.

Like all of you I sympathize…so wearing on us.

midge333

Cimetidine has a long track record of safety. It came out in the early 80s.

DK57

Hi there, new to this group as well. I was not prepared for this stage of dementia. My dad has always made inappropriate jokes, as long as I can remember. And we (especially my sister and I) would call him out and tell him it was inappropriate. Before dementia, he would chuckle and brush it off. The past couple weeks, my dad has been living with me, so I have seen mote closely some of his symptoms. He has made LOTS of sexual jokes and comments lately. And it is clear his filter is waning.

Last night, I overheard him saying something extremely lewd/vulgar toward a woman on TV. It was like he was overcome and I was hearing his internal thoughts. It was incredibly disturbing for me as his daughter. Thankfully, my kids were not around to hear. He didn't know I heard (may not have even realized he said it out loud), so I didn't address it with him.

I have a 13 yr old daughter at home and I have actually become uncomfortable leaving her with him for an extended period for fear of what he may say. She is SO good and understanding with my parents, but I don't want him to say something to her that would cross boundaries. He has already made inappropriate jokes, but if he said something like last night in front of her, or God forbid, to her, it would tear me apart. I hate that I feel I have lost this sense of trust, even though he cannot control it. We are exploring care facilities, but cannot afford private pay so working on Medicaid.

Palmetto Peg

My DH takes Cimetidine, and it has made a huge difference. He was physically grabbing women before we started it, not to mention the lewd comments and suggestions he was making to me in addition to constantly grabbing me. I don't think he could stay in a facility without Cimetidine, and I was afraid of literally being sexually assaulted. Try it - it has a long track record and my DH had no side effects at all. Good luck! I think this is one of the most trying behaviors of dementia! Let us know how you make out.

SDianeL

what Palmetto Peg said. Don’t wait. Call the doctor right away and explain the behavior and ask for a prescription. He won’t be accepted at any facility with that behavior. It’s very common in dementia patients. Be sure to tell the facility so they make sure he stays on the medication and that they watch him to make sure the behavior is controlled.