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First my DH, now my mother

fmb
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As many of you know, my DH, Roger, died January 21. I was just beginning to come to terms with his death when I was dealt another blow this week, only 6-1/2 weeks after his death.

My mother, who for the past 14 mos. was in memory care in our hometown 1000 miles away, died Friday afternoon (March 7). On February 24, she had fallen and broken her femur below the hip joint. Because of her severe Alzheimer's and heart failure, we children opted to not have the break surgically repaired. Already in hospice care, she was kept as comfortable as possible. It appeared that she had a stroke on Ash Wednesday, and she stopped eating and drinking. We three kids all live out of state, but my brother (the POA) flew in and was at her side with other local relatives when she died. Thanks to the compassionate care of the hospice team, she had a peaceful death.

Ever since our father died from Alzheimer's almost six years ago, she had wanted nothing more than to die so she could be with him in heaven. God finally mercifully granted her wish. Even though we knew this day was coming, we are devastated.

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  • hiya
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    I’m so sorry for your loss. Praying for you

  • Biggles
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    I’m so sorry life sends us so very many challenges and such sadness take care.

  • Biggles
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  • Quilting brings calm
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    I’m so sorry for your loss. Rest, take each day slowly - just get one or two things done. The cumulative effect is going to make it hard to do more.

  • SDianeL
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    I’m so sorry. Praying for your strength and comfort. Hugs. 🙏💜

  • psg712
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    I am very sorry for the loss of your mother. Peace and comfort to you.

  • Karen711
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    fmb- I’m very sorry for your loss. I hope you find some comfort that she wanted to go and be with her DH in heaven, and now she’s made the journey. Peace and rest to you!

    Karen

  • Pat6177
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    it doesn’t matter how old we are when we lose a parent - it’s so painful. I’m very sorry for your loss.

  • harshedbuzz
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    I am so sorry for two profound losses in so short a period of time. I wish you peace and strength as you go forward.

    HB

  • ImMaggieMae
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    I am so sorry for your loss. Losing two loved ones in such a short period of time is just too much. Prayers for you and your family.

  • Joe C.
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    My sincere condolences on the loss of your mother. May you find some peace in the days ahead.

  • JeriLynn66
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    @fmb , I am so sorry for the loss of your Dear Mother. May the Lord grant you peace and comfort in the coming days. You are in our prayers.

  • Mint
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    Wishing you comfort and peace during this difficult time.

  • CampCarol
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    My sincere condolences on the loss of your mother. Sending thoughts and prayers your way during this difficult time.

  • CindyBum
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    I am so very sorry for your loss. Peace be with you.

  • midge333
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    I am sorry for your loss.

  • ALCB
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    I'm so sorry, fmb. Thinking of you and your family today and sending strength.

  • housefinch
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    I’m so sorry. How devastating.

  • Jgirl57
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    Peace to you and your siblings. So very sorry

Commonly Used Abbreviations


DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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