Grand tour

MarDel0917

On My lunch break today went and visited the possible facility for my bf (45yo eoa, stage 6). I cried my whole drive there kept it together while walking up to the office then when asked how i could be helped the tears just fell. I did manage to get my words out. The lady who does the admissions was on lunch. Then as I was leaving she came back and was very kind and gave me a tour of the MC unit and the hospice unit. There is a large waiting list for the MC unit. However she said that if was on "hospice" then they could get him in right away and then if he gets better and they see there isn't a need for hospice then he would go to the MC unit. The title of hospice would be his foot and ticket into the door.

The facility is very nice and overlooks the valley. I can see him thriving there it's just the first initial step. Calling the doctor and asking if he can put the orders in. I just can't get past the guilt.

1. He will feel abandoned which he has felt so much in his life with his biological parents.

2. Is he going to hate and resent me?

3. Will I be able to go visit and have him be calm when I leave.m? He is my "baby" and I love him so much.

The ball is in my court it's just taking the first step (or should i say second step) that is the hardest.

Maybe I'll take it one week at a time. This week I visited next ill contact the Dr. That would be the procrastination part in me.

This sucks so bad!!!!!

We are all in this together 💜

tboard

We are all doing the best that we can and should not feel guilty.

JeriLynn66

I'm sorry for your pain and sorrow. The question at this point is "does he qualify for Hospice at this time?". The rules for Hospice and dementia are not quite as stringent, so if the Hospice Agency will accept him, then I would proceed. Remember, you are not doing this TO him, but FOR him. Keep us posted and keep your head up💜